Annoying him?

redhed35 · Sep 1, 2009, 10:26 AM

This is good!

Its communation.

So he is pointing out a few things that are bugging him,how long have you been together?

When you know what's going on in his head you can talk about it and find middle ground.
Sit him down and talk!

Dont go off on a rant,remind him gently that he is also human and most of the stuff that annoys us about boyfriends and partners is surface stuff.
Does he care for you?
Does he consider you?
Does he make time for you?
Does he respect you?

Those things are important.

There may be another cause for this,outside pressures and stress.

Again talk to him,if he wants to finish the relationship,so be it.
If its something else,possibly you can find middle ground and work it out.

Ash123 · Sep 1, 2009, 10:33 AM

Can you be more specific?
What is he complaining about?

crisluvsu731 · Sep 1, 2009, 10:48 AM

Well, we have been together for 2 years. He is 27 and I am 22.

s_cianci · Sep 1, 2009, 10:52 AM

It could be. It could also be a warning of sorts. What kinds of things does he tell you? And why does it really hurt your feelings? Are these things that "annoy" him legitimate reasons to be annoyed or not? There's always a fine line between being who you are and respecting the needs and feelings of others. Some people have difficulty maintaining that line. That may be a sign that you're just not compatible. More details would be helpful in giving you a more comprehensive answer.

redhed35 · Sep 1, 2009, 10:53 AM

Hey,going by your other threads,there is more going on in your relationship then just him saying he in annoyed with some stuff.

I suggest a counselor or call it quits.

crisluvsu731 · Sep 1, 2009, 10:56 AM

Saying that how I use certain words in a way that he doesn't like. And he says that it must be a thing from the south. We are in cali and I am from Oklahoma. So, here is an example that happened yesterday.

I work at a bank and my friend came to open an account to help with my refferals. Well, she came up here at the end of the day. So when I got off of work, she stayed and we sat there talking. Well, my boyfriend sent me a text asking if I was on my way home from work yet. I said no, I am sitting up here visiting with Jen. When I get home, he gets on my case, saying how I used visiting is the wrong way and starts defining it for me. And he said that I am always doing that and it annoys the hell out of him. It must be an Oklahoma thing.

Did I really do something that annoying? I looked it up while he was complaining and it does mean what he was saying, but in an informal definition, it means how I was using it.

redhed35 · Sep 1, 2009, 11:09 AM

Let me get this straight.

You used the word 'visiting' in the wrong context,and it......annoyed him!

If this is the type of thing that annoys him,how does he manage serious issues!

I don't think that's an oklahoma thing, I think its a whatever planet he's from thing.

crisluvsu731 · Sep 1, 2009, 11:30 AM

But that doesn't make me annoying to a normal person, does it?

amicon · Sep 1, 2009, 11:38 AM

Of course it doesn't! But sorry I think you need to have a serious talk with your man.

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