Annoying him?

redhed35 · Sep 1, 2009, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by crisluvsu731

But that doesn't make me annoying to a normal person, does it?

Depends on what you consider 'normal'

But,I think to most people it would not cause enough stress to point it out.

Ok,this is an example of what my boyfriend does that I find annoying..
While watching tv he channel hops,and hops and hops,never leaving anything on or even going back to the original programme.

Does it stress me out,to the point where I make a point of it. No.
I pick up a book,and read while he plays with the remote.
Its not a dealbreaker.

If this nit picking is causing pressure on your relationship,talk about it,or let him to suck it up.

crisluvsu731 · Sep 1, 2009, 11:45 AM

I have, several times. We are in therapy and I just got him to start anti-depressants. And I am on them as well. It doesn't make a difference. I don't know what to do anymore. I have started thinking that maybe he isn't the right one for me. I like mtv and he likes discovery channel. He nags me about what I watch, I don't say anything to him about what he watches. I feel sometimes that there isn't anything I can do to not annoy him in some way shape or form.

Ash123 · Sep 1, 2009, 02:13 PM

The way to handle it is to not be SILENT.

A guy does not want to walk all over you...He is annoyed but needs to know he can speak his mind and you will speak yours - as long as it's civil.

Just say, "That's how we do it in Oklahoma darlin'...I don't get on your case for saying DUDE so much....now simmer down and let's go have some fun."

It's attractive to see you enjoy being yourself and speaking up without being shattered by his words....try it....if you like him, you all need to practice honest but not rude communication. If he is twit, and complains all the time....maybe take a break and see how he likes that.

none12345 · Sep 1, 2009, 02:55 PM

Can't be with someone that you find annoying, you let them know so the two can get along better. That's how I see it.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 1, 2009, 03:25 PM

I'm not that understanding.
He's 27 you're 22. While you are both adults you are at two different levels and stages. He may need or want to be with someone older.
Personally, I think he's nit picking and being rude and manipulative.
You are still young and life can be short. You have been with this guy since you were 20 he 25. If he is that annoyed, he can leave you, or he can stay with you and make himself feel good by cutting you down.
I'd leave him.
Dont start your adult life taking insulting abusive crap from men, especially older ones.

If he finds the way you talk annoying, what are you supposed to do? What if the way you walk is annoying? This is crap. I think he wants out.

Has he always been like this?

crisluvsu731 · Sep 1, 2009, 04:16 PM

Yes, he has.

s_cianci · Sep 1, 2009, 04:40 PM

It sounds like he's got some serious issues. To make a federal case of the context in which you use a word is off the deep end if you ask me. I'd run from this one and never look back.

crisluvsu731 · Sep 1, 2009, 04:49 PM

It's easier said than done though. I do love him very much. I am in love with him.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 1, 2009, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by crisluvsu731

yes, he has.

Then girl, cut it loose. The relationship is dysfunctional.
He likes making you feel bad and you let him.
It's time to get out of this mess.

crisluvsu731 · Sep 2, 2009, 08:34 AM

Easier said than done. He doesn't do it that much. I had a talk with him lastnight and told him how it hurt my feelings and he appologized and said that he is going to work on it.

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