Originally Posted by
templelane
Incident one: we had an important appintment and I told him th etime 20 minutes before the appointment I'm locked out of the house (we lost the second set of keys) and I phone him- he's in the pub with his mates. He knew when the appointment was, knows I hate being late and he knew I couldn't get into the house if I turned up before him.
Maybe he genuinely forgot? What reason did he give when you asked him why he wasn't there?
How long before this day did you tell him about the appointment?
Guys are very forgetful creatures.
Incident two: he'd rather go to a ex work colleges stagnight than go to a family event that has been planned all year. Luckily I haen't booked the flights yet (flight my family were going to buy for him).
I admit I have ditched boring family events to go to parties...
He should have told you earlier but the thought of having fun with his mates seemed more appealing than sitting around with family.
Incident three: It was his birthday weekend but my parents were coming up to see me. I asked if he wanted to join us (fancy hotel sightseeing in a nearby city) but said it was OK if he didn't want to come in order to see his family- he said yes. Then a few days before he just has to go back to mummies. He sees her every week. If he couldn't not see her on his birthday he should have said before we booked the hotel.
This one I am with you on... you should have told you earlier, it was unfair to back out and leave you with the hotel bill to pay, even if it was his birthday.
I know I should talk to him but I don't want to cause trouble if I'm overreacting.
Only way to solve this is to talk to him I'm afraid. Bring it up casually if you want, just mention that you are feeling a bit left out lately with him going off with his mates.