Ok, so I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and 1 month now. I love him to death, everything about our relationship is awesome except one aspect: MONEY. Let me start by saying that I am and have always been a very independent woman and never been needy as far as material things, I have never asked my boyfriend to buy me anything when we go to the store, take me shopping, etc. Nor do I expect a man to "save" me by any means. However things changed when we got our own place together.

He makes MORE THAN DOUBLE what I make on a weekly basis and rent, groceries, household items, etc are split 50/50. The only extra expense that he pays is the electric and cable but I still cannot help but feel hurt at the end of the month when I don't have any money to spend on myself because I struggle with even my basic essentials and he has all this money to blow. Well it finally really got to me last April when it was my birthday.. He asked what I wanted to do. I told me I really wanted to go to this amusement park that was a couple hours away from where we live so we agreed and went the weekend.

Well to my surprise, when we got to the amusement park, I had to pay for my own ticket in ON my birthday (which, I thought, would be my b-day present.. (duh)... Granted he drove and got the hotel but any expenses while we were there, i.e..,. If I wanted a bottle of water he never offered to pay. If we go out to eat, we split the bill. If we go to a comedy show, I have to pay my own way. Now.. I can't help but feel a little hurt. He tells me stories of girlfriends in the past that he's bought cars for, taken on trips, paid for car repairs etc.

This really bothers me because I feel like he doesn't do those things for me. I don't know if I'm old fashioned in the sense that I think a MAN should treat their woman like a queen and want to do nice things for her i.e. take her out to dinner once in a while and cover the bill or offer to do things for me if he sees that I am struggling and he is sitting comfortable. I know he has mentioned that in his last relationship he "wasted" so much money on the girl because it ended up not going anywhere and they broke up. However I do not feel it is fair to treat me the way he does. If I had the extra money to spend, and he didn't I would WANT TO treat him. If I could, believe me, I would.

I don't know how to bring this up without it becoming an argument or coming off like I need him to "take care of me" because I Don't, it would just be nice and make me feel better to see that he cares enough about me to see me sitting comfortable like he is. Am I overreacting? I have girlfriends that tell me that I am crazy for putting up with it and their boyfriends pay for everything of theirs (shopping money, nails, groceries, dinners out, entertainment, etc... ) I'm not even wanting that. I do not expect him to pay for everything of mine but it just hurts and makes me feel unappreciated.

My question is: Is it right of me to feel the way I do or am I overreacting? How do I go about talking to my boyfriend about these issues without it becoming an argument and sounding "needy"? Just a note: in the beginning of the relationship (first 3-4 months) he wasn't like this at all... Any info would help, especially from a male perspective. Thanks!


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