Hi all,

If you don't know my situation, this link should bring up mostly up to speed: http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...apy-76282.html .

I am back again becuase things are progressing, though I want to be sure that I am handling this correctly... Over the past few weeks, my ex and I have begun to talk slightly more often, in a friendly way. Now I haven't initiated any (at least very minimal) contact between us, though for the next few weeks I wont be very busy, so I am usually available. When she calls, I will answer and we will talk.

The conversations have been innocent. I made it very clear to her earlier in the breakup that if we talk, I don't want to talk about us nor do I want to talk about any romantic interests she has other than me. Some of our conversations have lasted over an hour, and they have always been enjoyable on both sides. During the week, I and her are both at school, and we talk maybe two nights a week. However, on the weekends, she is home, away from her friends and schoolwork, and we talk more often.

We have seen each other on the weekends, and she is beginning to act more and more romantic towards me, and seems to be having trouble keeping her emotions hidden. I don't make a big deal out of things she does, as I dont seem to be so hung up on it anymore. She has hugged me, held my hand, run her hands through my hair, etc etc and I try to ignore the fact that it is happening. She has told me that she is afraid to do anything which will hurt me, as she is undoubtedly still confused.

Here are my concers:

-Though it is much less, I still am bothered at times by the fact that I talk with her much less durng the week than on the weekends. I do not want to feel as if I am suddenly second to her friends, though technically we are just friends.

I know there are many happy couples which dont talk every day, and for some reason, even though we are not a couple, I still miss her when she doesn't call me for a couple of days. It seems to bring out my insecurities and I begin to think that she is lying to me, and that she doesn't miss me at all. I know this is normal to some extent, and maybe I am just overanalyzing. What do you think?

As an update to how I am doing: In general, I have been getting much better. I have 2 more weeks of school, then summer break starts and I cant wait. Working full time all summer, and (hopefully) buying myself a motorcross bike I still have the sadness/worried feelings, though mostly in the mornings when I first wake up. I have finally discovered that I can control my thoughts, and when i begin to get upset about specific events/things I have seen, I can stop the thoughts, and return to a normal mood much faster than before.

Thanks to anyone who read the whole thing, and thanks in advance for any advice