I don't know what to do I am 53 years old I look younger and I am in pretty good shape. There is this woman that came to work in my department and since I have laid eyes on her I can't stop thinking about her in fact I have never in my 53 years felt like this about anyone before when I see her my heart jumps when I thinks about her I feel a kind of pleasure and pain combined it almost brings me to tears. The problem is she doesn't know and I am scare to say something to her and she is probably 25 years younger than me. She is divorced and has a 4 year old child. I thought I was in control but regarding her I am totally out of control. My maturity level has gone south. I know I should just let it be but I can't help feeling the way I do. To add to my dilemma I am a Scorpio and she is a Pisces if you look up our compatibility you will see we are one of the best matches. I feel embarrassed that I feel this way about someone so young. Am I an idiot?

JBeaucaire

Your incompatibilities do NOT stem from a horoscope chart, Oh my goodness! Didn't you say you were 53?

No, your problem is seeing the possibilities. Getting all gaga over a girl is fun. Enjoy the feeling, but don't turn off your mind. If there is ANY chance of her becoming attracted to YOU, it's because you put in the time and effort to slowly allow that to happen.

Find out what she's interested in, involved in and get into that. Try to bump into her in THAT environment, too. Then build on that, coffee afterwards, take the kid to the zoo before...something mildly related.

You're no spring chicken. You know how to do this. Slap yourself and calm down and have some fun planning this out. Anything you try to do quickly will just creep her out and end it before it starts.

The real trick is to put yourself into her life first, so SHE can come up with the idea of being attracted to you on her own.

talaniman

What's your status? Single, married, divorced, widowed?

xiaocake

You could let her know you care about her.
I am Pisces too, and my ex is Scorpio. I many times imagine if later there is a Pisces appearing in his life again, they should be together.
Maybe it is the right time for you because you have a such strong feeling. If it is predestined for two people, they still need a right time and place. I think you could get close to her life, and love her kid.
Good luck to you. Please don't give up on her.

Bibo53

To answer Talanimans question I have bee divorced 15 years I was married to a Virgo for 17 years I still care for her but she is very abusive and bitter so I had to leave. I stayed with her for all those years because I don't believe in divorce but a mind can only take so much abuse. I have dated some women of differen't ages some even 15 years younger but I never felt in love. Looks and age are not important to me I just want to feel completed I want to find my soul mate and I may never accomplish that. I think I have a lot to offer someone I'm not bad looking I am told I am an IT professional I make a good living I don't drink do drugs gamble or engage in anything immoral. But I do have a bit of a temper when push really hard. I work out I eat right I keep my house up. I don't like feeling the way I do about someone I may never have a chance with because of the age difference. In fact I am trying to forget her I mean what would she want with me at my age. There has to be some commonality between two people it can't just be base on passion. And I have to think about her when I'm 65 she will only be 40 Argggggggggg.

talaniman

Yes those young females are really hot, and have the uncanny ability to make us lose our common sense, at our age. I can only suggest, knowing what you do, to just befriend her, and slowly get to know her. You may find she is looking for a good partner, but is in no real hurry, or she is not what your making her out to be, and has many issues. Either way, act your age, and not think your 21 again, and make those kinds of mistakes. I advise caution, no matter the age, because emotional expectations can blind us to reality, and can lead us down a stupid path, so don't be that needy, or that blind. OR IN THAT MUCH OF A HURRY TO HAVE SOMEONE! You'll be okay, if you just go slow,, and keep the eyes wide open as I suspect you will, and be friends, and see where it goes. It all depends on her feelings anyway.

BMI

I think getting worked up about a girl at work is common, who wouldn't right? (well some i guess, but whatever).

I think your stretching a bit basing the possibility of a relationship based on horoscopes. However, like everyones says, talk to her. You have a wonderful basis in that you work with her and it is quite commonplace to ask a co-worker out for a drink without being seen as you hitting on her. Great opportunity almost everyday.

Men and women hook up at work more than anyother place save the supermarket, thats a better stat to focus on rather than horoscopes. Also, the age thing is not too bad, don't make it seem like its impossible. Talk, get more information and go from there.

Obviouisly you gotta bring it to work these days, nice shirt and tie, smell nice, take it up a notch.

Bibo53

Thanks to all that have replied to my question. Based on the advice I have received so far I am going to do the following. I will befriend her only I will try and be her buddy to see where it will lead. I doesn't matter so much what I a feeling it is ultimately up to her. My reference to the horoscope was just me looking to see if there was any compatability I really never believed in that sort of stuff until I started looking at it after my divorce and during some of my relationships after. It was surprizing that the horoscopes explained so many things that were right and wrong about my relationships. But ultimately there is a high power greater at work and his will is what counts. Also I want to say if you care about someone you want the very best for them even if that best is not you. I appreciate all the input from everyone and i will continue to welcome it.