I have posted another question about me being separated from my husband, (who i still might love, he left me, but now wants me back), but this is another kind of question.
my great bfriend offered me to move in with me............ i do like being around him, also, i can't afford living by myself ( live in DC, I have a great job, but i am still new, so i am not making much, i am 23). what do i do? i hate using my bfriend as a roommate, but i really like him, is that possible to love two people at the same time? i know i need to stop seeing and talking to my husband, but i don't know if i am ready to move in with my bfriend. he was there for me, he might get a bit clueless at times, makes me mad... i am probably just ing about it for no reason. should i move in with my bfriend or should i just suck it up?

momincali

You need to find a way to afford your own apartment, maybe something smaller and in a different location. You are using your bf and somewhat lying to your husband. Not good. Suck it up.

dudya07

yeah, i just needed to hear it from someone, who has no interest in it. all my friends tell me i should't loose this chance with this great guy, but i want it to be genuine, vs pressure.
thanks

talaniman

How about a divorce first. That would be genuine.

miss nafarious

i wouldn't move in with him until you have decided what you want. you need to either get over your feelings for your ex (which could take a long time) or decide if there is possibly a chance of reuniting with the ex & give it a bash

dudya07

we have filed for divorce, that's the thing. we've been waiting on the responce from the court, but they take sooooo long.
I don't want to be untrue to anyone, and I insisted on it, when my husband was flipping back and forth, based on his mood, i guess.

Suicidal Addiction

it is possible to love more than one person u love one person now but u still have love for the person in the past realationship ..... i think u should try to move in with ur bf but it depend how bad ur husband hurt u as well ya know if he broke ur heart and wants u back if i were u i wouldnt risk being hurt by the same guy u wasted ur time on before so try something new and move in with ur bf if it dont work move out lol

dudya07

My husband keeps emailing and calling, i see he is really trying, i don' t know how to get over him. i know that no one else would make me feel the way he did, but i know after all that happened we couldn't be happy. i'd always remember what he did. it was out of the blue, 2 weeks after our 2 years or marriage anniversary, then evth was still heavenly.
maybe i am just complaining too much.......... at least i got some objective thoughts from people, who i don't know. i think it gives me a clearer picture.
thanks

talaniman

Do you think a break from the men might put your life in an even clearer perspective? Learning to love yourself may be just what you need to bring what you want into a even clearer picture. Seems I've already made that suggestion to you in another thread..............Must be good advice if I say so myself. Doggone double threads!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

dudya07

Maybe that is the case, i don't know. i am afraid to hurt the one, who has been there for me, but i have made my mind about living by myself. it will put my mind at peace for a bit. my bf is supporting me in this decision, as soon as i move in to my tiny apartment(hopefully i'll find one i can afford), i'll feel free and will be able to think things over.
its true, though, i need to love myself, i am more of a giver than taker, want everyone to be happy, even if its at my expense.... foolish..........