I am being put to the test!!!!

kadd0007 · #1 Aug 24, 2006, 12:57 PM

Hey guys you are all aware of my situation by now but i have a little problem which i really need help with???

I am not sure if i had metioned this before but the girl i was seeing we both have mutual friends...Now my best friend's BD is coming up september 3rd and she is friends with his GF so in that order she will be there.

Now should i go or should i not go??????? I know if i go its going to be hard and awkward seeing her but i am sure i could deal with it....

If i dont go everyone will know that i am not there because of her and i dont want to her to know that its affecting me that much and i sure as hell DO NOT want to alter my life because of her and plus i dont want to miss out on my bes friend's BD.......

What do you guys think? advice please

JuLee · Aug 24, 2006, 01:12 PM

just go. doesn't mean you have to talk to her or anything. maybe just a "hi, how are you" and split the other direction.

kp2171 · Aug 24, 2006, 01:23 PM

go.

ignore her. act like shes someone else if you have to. shes the 70 year old man who feeds pigeons at the park. there. glad i could fix that. =)

just have fun with your best friend.

remember the day is about him, not you or her... so if there is drama from her thats all you need to say or back off till later.

momincali · Aug 24, 2006, 02:51 PM

Pay complete and total attention to your best friend that day. Say hello in passing to this girl but that's it. Don't allow yourself to be put in a situation where she can approach you and try to talk. Stay busy but not obnoxiously so. Be fun and happy, happy, happy! Stay close to your buddies. Dance. Smile alot.

Wildcat21 · Aug 24, 2006, 03:15 PM

Yes, you must go. Be a man. Act cool. Don't approach her at all. Have a great time! No needy or insecure moves. Think George Clooney/James Bond.

I wouldn't talk with her at all. She doesn't deserve it one bit. Talk to ALL the other women - taken or not!!!

Let us know what happens!

kadd0007 · Aug 25, 2006, 04:28 AM

will do...thanks for all the advice guys...

I must say this site is the best thing i came across so far.....Thank you all so much again i feel like a kid in a candy store lol..

Will keep you updated!

Krs · Aug 25, 2006, 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by kadd0007

Now should i go or should i not go??????? I know if i go its going to be hard and awkward seeing her but i am sure i could deal with it....

Read your post above, you answered your own question, well done

s_cianci · Aug 25, 2006, 07:42 AM

You've answered your own questions. Don't live your life around her. Otherwise that just puts her in control.

ilovcali · Aug 25, 2006, 08:07 AM

I personally think, be a man, and say "Hi" FIRST. Don't say anything else. Just go up and say "Hi". I don't like the idea of not saying a word. Especially if you guys have mutual friends and you might see her again.

In some ways, that also shows her that she had less power over you. You just don't care anymore.

kadd0007 · Aug 25, 2006, 10:27 AM

yeah that was the plan really is only to aknowledge her one time and one time only and that is by saying hello.

After that she does not exist for the rest of the night and hopefully for the rest of my life =)

( i say that because more and more stuff are being said about what she has done behind my back and man i dont even ever want her as a friend!!! )



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