Am I being irrational?

Thanks. I do trust him though. I really do. I'm just dealing with some insecurities with myself.

As I said, we all have insecurities.

Sometimes we have to take a leap of faith.

Try to deal head on with your own insecurities and be truthful with yourself. Sometimes if you try writing down the situations that make you feel insecure it is easier to see them in their true, futile irrational light.

Make sure to keep communication up with your boyfriend. Sit him down and tell him that you are feeling a little insecure about this but that you trust him. If you feel weird about it you are just going to tell him.

As long as you keep it honest from the start you can't go wrong.

That way it will never seem as though you are being jealous or irrational because you have told him how you are feeling all along, yeah no?

I have an ex boyfriend that I dated for over 5 years. We broke up about 2 and a half years ago. He is one of my closest friends. We talk several times a week and see each other about twice a month. I truly love him, but I am not in love with him. I have no desire to be with him.

My current boyfriend understands our relationship and trusts me spend time with my ex. I can't imagine not having that friend. If my boyfriend ever forced me to make a choice....

He is definitely crossing some boundaries there.

I am really going to have to disagree some here. Everyone seems to be saying the issue is with you. I'm not so sure. I don't know your boyfriend, but it seems to me that if he is texting ex girlfriends, your sister, etc., and you have voiced your concerns and he tells you that you need to give him a reason why he shouldn't be, this is bringing up a red flag with me, sorry.

If he loves and respects you, he would take you seriously, and you would be able to voice your concerns with him, instead of being afraid to. I think your gut is telling you something here. I don't think it's cool for him to be texting an ex, and expecting you not to be concerned about that. Someone that has nothing to hide, hides nothing.

It is not always an issue of jealousy or insecurity. Sometimes it's someone waving a red flag in front of your face. I'm not saying he IS doing anything wrong with these girls, I'm just saying that he should respect your feelings about this. You have already said he's a big flirt, and that some of your friends are attracted to him. He needs to back off a little there. As far as your sister goes, he is not her therapist and shouldn't be keeping secrets between him and her, and the ex...heck no! Not unless it's a friendship and understanding, between the 3 of you.

Maybe you do have some insecurities, but his actions with others may be feeding them, and at some point he has to consider that.

Work on your own insecurities, and let the counselor help guide you both through this.

Starbuck8, thanks for your opinion. Um, it makes me feel a little better knowing that I'm not just overracting and being irrational about everything.

You may be upset that she cannot open up to you .....maybe you may want to take the initiative to talk to her too.....it may help out some just let her know that you are there for her too

But see, me and my sister are not that close, usually all we do is fight and when I was living there she made me miserable..

Oh I see what it boils down to is that you do not trust the relationship they have it makes you uncomfortable you have a decision to make ...you have made your feelings known right ....if it makes you feel that bad that he disregards your feelings ..something may be gping on..for your sake I hope not lots of luck I hope everything works out..and maybe you guys fought because you lived togeter..maybe you need to tell her to leave all in the past and start over you want to be her friend