i m a 19 year old guy and love a 14 year old girl. the girl is one of my dad's best friends daughter. both our parents know this thing. they have no problems. we both stay far apart . i amn't dating her, but i keep thinking of her all day and i know she too does. but thinking of her age and maturity level i m heading nowhere in the relation. please suggest me what to do and what not to do. suggestions appreciated.

tickle

I suggest you move on from this 'almost' relationship. If the parents know they should be discouraging the situation. Your l4 year old girl used to referred to as 'jail bait' and in your case, being l9, is aptly true. You could be in serious trouble if it goes two or three steps further. Think about your future. She at l4 cant actually be mature enough to handle a relationship with an older boy and her parents should be making her aware of this instantly.

duck22

Your 19 and shes 14? There are laws to keep relationships like this from happening. You can get into a lot of unwanted trouble if you pursue anything with her. Find somebody your own age or wait until she is 18.

MoeyLuv

i was in a similar situation as yours when i was younger (me being the younger girl though) so i can definitely relate to your feelings right now. but if you really love this girl than i suggest that you wait until she is older and its legal for you guys to date. if you dont the situation can become so difficult and believe me its not worth it. with my situation i was 16 and the guy was 22 and we decided to see each other well let me tell you that was a bad idea... but even after all the drama with my family and his when i turned 18 we got back together and that was one of the best relationship ive had in my life... and even though things didnt work out btwn us till this day we are really great friends... so just wait really its the best thing

ScottGem

You aren't in love, you are infatuated. You need to immerse yourself in college, work or whatever and get past this infatuation.

TrueFaith

its hard when we fall for things that we know are not good for us, but it always makes the attraction so much more powerful.

because its kind of wrong

but as everyone here has said its probable not the best idea, i think you should try and forget about her work on your own thing. find new things to keep you active


Regards

talaniman

Are you anywhere in North America???? Does your culture condone such a union?

SummerLegacies

I had a friend who was in a similar situation as you, except he was 18. She was still 14. What I noticed was that even though there was a great friendship, and a physical attraction, the maturity level was the killer. There's just little things someone 14 years old will say and do, and for you it will just not feel...right. Also, at 19 i'm sure you've gone through a relationship, a break up, and intimacy, and someone that young just hasn't got the experience for a serious relationship yet. But that doesn't mean you can't like each other. Just be the best friends you can be, and maybe when she gets a little older if you both still feel the same way you can start a relationship.

Fr_Chuck

When she turns 20 and you are 25, who knows what can happen latter in life, at this point there is not even a choice of what to do, you move on with your life