What do you do when your mate pack your bags up every time she/he gets mad at you?

My husband never packed my bags but he used to grab the keys and leave. It's his way of keeping from saying or doing things he might regret. I wouldn't worry too much about it, in the sense that he probably doesn't REALLY want you to leave. But you guys need to sit down, at a time when things are fine and you aren't fighting to discuss better ways to cope with arguments and anger toward each other. Before you start this conversation though, promise each other this will not escalate into a fight of its own. REALLY listen to each other and don't mock the other person's feelings.

I would honestly let them leave. If they want to threaten me with never coming back and taking there stuff with I'd just show them the way out of MY house.

It would only happen once. There would be no second time.

Its one thing to grab the keys and take a drive or leave the house for a walk.

Its quite another to pack a bag.

It shows that person will threaten with ultimatums whenever mad... the "im taking my ball and going home" announcement on the 5th grade playground.

I'm irish-serb. My wife's italian. Lots of potential for heated discussions. All that said, if you can't talk things out sometimes when mad, it just isn't going to work. Sometimes I need to step out for a few minutes and come back in... sometimes shell leave the room with a peach of an insult thrown my way. Those are rare. I think how you treat each other when its rough is important.

Anyone can survive the easy days. It's the rough moments that you have to work through. And despite a few nuclear moments here and there, neither my partner nor I have ever packed a bag and threatened to leave.

This person is that kid on the playground, thinking if they can't get their way, they can just take the ball home with them.

Juvenille in grade school. Even dumber as an adult.

You choose the respect you demand, and sometimes you don't get it. If this is OK with you, fine. Be prepared to accept this as a normal part of your relationship. Some people can do this and look the other way.

If not, stand up to it. No bluffing. Ask for the keys to the house and where theyd like their stuff sent.

Lots of great answers here, but the Lion King said the partner is packing the Lion King's bags, not the partner's own bags. Very weird. To call that bluff, you'd have to take the mystery bags and leave. What's even in them? Probably not everything you need for an overnight, let alone the rest of your life. No tooth paste? That old sweater that shrank last fall? Sounds incredibly juvenile to me. I think I would just laugh, but that's me.

Good catch. Read the post too fast and missed the "my" bags detail. Thanks for correcting it.

Uhm... I think id take that even more personally. So you are easily disposed of.

How long have you been with this person? "mate" can mean different things... are you dating? Married? I also didn't catch that word first time through and assumed it was a girlfriend.

How often does this happen? Did it just start? More info about your situation please...