My name is Heather and i just recently posted a question about jealousy. I had some very good advice about that and I am still working on that. Now I need advice about the actual relationship. My boyfriend and I are very much in love, I know that. The bad thing is, he flirts....alot. It doesn't play too well with my jealousy issue; I feel like I can't trust him. It has gotten to where these past couple of weeks, we cannot go ONE DAY without arguing about something. Today is my birthday, all I asked of him was that we don't fight today, it is my day. We ended up arguing about something he brought up. I asked him why it couldn't wait and he says that when something gets on his mind, he wants to resolve it right then and there. Now we are not talking, like usual, and this will keep on until one of us apologizes. I just need to know what to do. He has a daughter from the past and I have a son. I love him and I want to make this work, but all of this arguing, I fear, is going to traumatize the kids. I have already tried talking about this with him and he will say things like, "well if that's how you feel, then we don't need to be together" and things like that. What do I do??? Do I stay with him and try to work it out? Pro: I could be very happy and we can have a loving family, which is all I ever really wanted. Con: It doesn't work, we continue this and our children end up growing up in a bad enviorment, plus we are both unhappy. Or I could break it off, say it wasn't meant to be, blah, blah, blah. Pro: If it really wasn't meant to be, I would hurt for a while, but then I would happier in the end. Con: If it was, I will have made the biggest mistake of my life.

HELP!!