all about sex

sexmess · #1 Mar 21, 2007, 09:24 AM

hey guys,

i have never been in a relationship before, and the idea really scares me i just don't know how you would ever build up trust in someone?!

my main fear is commitment, i am scared to commit myself to anyone!

i have a question though...how can you tell if its purely all going to be about sex?

please help! xx

also is this normal or am i having irrational thoughts? im actually physically scared to ever go into a relationship! and im scared this will push men away?

jonjons1girl · Mar 21, 2007, 09:26 AM

Well first off how old are you?
and we need a little more details, what scares you?
What about the thought commitment?
Etc.

ATYOURSERVICE · Mar 21, 2007, 09:28 AM

I Believe This To Be A Personal Choice. You Do Not "need" To Be In A Relationship, But Will Say Not To Mislead Women Either. There Are Many Woemn Out There Who Don't Want That Either. Good Luck.

ATYOURSERVICE · Mar 21, 2007, 09:29 AM

And I Meant They Don't Want Relationship/commitment.

sexmess · Mar 21, 2007, 09:56 AM

im 18
i have never had any experience of a relationship, as the idea scares me. if a lad was to ask me on a date id freak out, i would have to know them like a best mate before i made any commitment, but then i would still be scared if they were actually into me or whether they just wanted sex.

i just want to know what they key features are that someone likes you for who you are and not jus for sex, especially if you and the guy are like complete opposites!

ATYOURSERVICE · Mar 21, 2007, 10:00 AM

Wow... 18 and this is what you are worried about. Enjoy your life, have a good time, have sex with multiple people. Then in your late 20 start thinking about a relationship.

Don't make the same mistake that all us "married/relationship at a young age" made.
You can never get back those years.

jonjons1girl · Mar 21, 2007, 10:01 AM

Well people can be opposite's and still like each other. To know that its not just for sex, you shouldn't give in to him soon in a relationship. You should get to know each other and then look at it all. You both are young and you have to realize that sex is a BIG deal and responsibility! It is a very dangerous option, and you can let each other know you love them through different ways. Sex isn't the only one. Good Luck.

sypher373 · Mar 21, 2007, 10:05 AM

I think you should take it slow and be careful about what your doing. As long as you dont rush, you will be able to make the right decisions. These are the sorts of things which will make more sense to you when the situation arises....when in doubt - dont.