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Have anyone of you started going out with someone
and they seemed nice at first (nothing special) you
know..but simply dating.. He or she is crazy after
you ..wanting to spend more and more time with
you..buying you gifts..showing you what a great
person they are for you..just convincing you to
fall in love...THEN IT HAPPENS...You fall for them
(well off course you do..because they seemed so
perfect who wouldn't want that right?)
Then the
UNTHINKABLE HAPPENS AGAIN....couple months
down or couple years down the road he or she
CHANGES! They become distant..doesn't want to
call you AS much..doesn't even take you out like
they use to..Doesn't do the simplest thing...
or Hug you, say I l o v e you or I
miss you. Then you start wondering why is it
your the one chasing after him or her when they
were the one after you in the first place and now
that you FELL for them THEY are feeling like the
ALMIGHTY and you feel like your confidence is
suddenly GONE.
Then you start asking them to
call you more often or text and what they do they
COMPLAIN YOU ARE BEING CLINGY OR ATTACHED
but you think.."no I'm just asking for what I don't get
Don't I have the right to ask for something that makes
me happy in this relationship?" THEN COMES ARGUMENTS!
THEN THE REL ENDS AND YOUR LEFT WITH THE FEELING
THAT ALL THE CONFIDENCE YOU'VE ONCE HAD IS GONE
AND YOUR WORTHLESS AND HE OR SHE HAS TAKEN IT
ALL?
Ok so...We've all had breakups..BUT has this ever happened
to you or close to? Would love to hear from you all..feel free
to spill as much beans as you want. I'm listening!
I think I've been on both sides of this coin, so I can only say, that as we get to know others, we find out things we love, and not love so much, and we change, and adjust, as time and emotions, dictate to us. Sometimes we are so in love, we can't se what a beeyatch they really are, or that their feelings have changed. By the same token, my feelings have changed a few times, and the love and enthusiasm, wears thin, and you know its time to go. So I think its all about how you cope with those feelings, and deal with others. For me the truth works best, but being nice, is the way to go. I expected that of others towards me also, so don't appreciate any games, or tricks, along the way. I do know how paralyzing, and hurt, you can be from being rejected, or replaced, but I also know that its temporary, until we can have the time to heal, and move on. Just as you know the sun rises the next day, you are assured to heal and grow. Just my opinion though, and I hope this helps.
At first, my ex was VERY into me. She freely admitted it too. I liked her, but I was still relatively independent...needed my own space and time...and it was casual dating for me. For her, it was a relationship. After about a year, I started to get very attached to her...and we were equally attached to one another for 2 more years...
...then all of a sudden, poof. She says she "needs space." then...3 days later, new guy. ...then she did a complete 180. she started to party a lot (she never partied when I was with her) and things just...changed. a lot.
At first, my ex was VERY into me. She freely admitted it too. I liked her, but I was still relatively independent...needed my own space and time...and it was casual dating for me. For her, it was a relationship. After about a year, I started to get very attached to her...and we were equally attached to one another for 2 more years...
...then all of a sudden, poof. She says she "needs space." then...3 days later, new guy. ...then she did a complete 180. she started to party a lot (she never partied when I was with her) and things just...changed. a lot.
...it's strange. it truly is strange...
I have the same story as you man. For me we were together for four years, everything was great until this past month. She began to not act like herself, then out of the blue broke up with me because she said she "needs space." I just recently found out that it was because she started seeing another guy the day she left me. Its the worst feeling.
The space thing normaly means give me space so i can be with this other Person rarely its to go away and sort out there feelings.
thats why if girls say they want there space with me. i go we brake up
and she wanst seeing a guy the day she left you. she was already into him while you guys were going out hens the not acting like herself these things dont just happen there always planed
What I think is happening is....the person, though they might like/love you, basically isn't themselves in the beginning and they lay it on real thick. They are giving you what they think you want...all the overly mushy stuff. When all you really want is sincerity. But they can't keep the charade up for long because it's just not who they are. The thing is....get to know a person months and months before you give them your heart. This way, you can determine whether they are genuine or it's a facade.
What I think is happening is....the person, though they might like/love you, basically isn't themselves in the beginning and they lay it on real thick. They are giving you what they think you want...all the overly mushy stuff. When all you really want is sincerity. But they can't keep the charade up for long because it's just not who they are. The thing is....get to know a person months and months before you give them your heart. This way, you can determine whether they are genuine or it's a facade.
See, i did that... I courted my ex for 5 months before i asked her to be exclusive, even though, i knew she wasnt seeing anyone else during that courtship. Then when we were b/f and g/f i fell for her hard, gave it everything i had for 2 years. stupid college. oh well, right now i feel like its just a shame that its come to this, very disappointing.
See, i did that... I courted my ex for 5 months before i asked her to be exclusive, even though, i knew she wasnt seeing anyone else during that courtship. Then when we were b/f and g/f i fell for her hard, gave it everything i had for 2 years. stupid college. oh well, right now i feel like its just a shame that its come to this, very disappointing.
It sounds like you did everything nice and slow. I think that's pretty cool. That's how I want it to be the next time around. I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. But as long as you were the best person you could be while being true to yourself, then that's all a person can do, ya know?
well, the thing is...I was good friends for a year before we started dating. We dated for 3 years...and all through this time, she was very against drinking and being the typical stupid college student.
...we break up, and she's apparently been drinking heavily every few days and just doing things completely out of her character. weird.
rarely its to go away and sort out there feelings.
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