After how many dates is it okay for the girl to initiate the calls?

brkfstatiffs · #1 May 6, 2007, 03:24 PM

Man, I feel like I suck at the dating game. It's been awhile since i've been a part of it since I recently got out of a relationship a few months back. But my simple question is, after how many dates is it fair to say us ladies don't have to wait for him to call? I've been out on 5 dates with this great guy, and every date just gets better. Thursday night we had a great overnight date and when we departed he asked when will I see you again, we ended up not setting an exact date because we knew we both were busy the next few days( friday and saturday), not to mention we live very close to each other. But here it is Sunday, and even though he said to me "have a good weekend" when he dropped me off I really was hoping to see him tonight. Do I call or send him a simple text asking what he's up to? Or leave it in his hands? He's the one that initiated the seeing eacth other soon, I feel like it was my fault for not jumping in with "how about sunday night" but he hasn't called or anything yet and I'd like to see him before he goes out of town mid-week. What do ya think? I want to play my cards right w/ this guy.

AW805 · May 6, 2007, 04:35 PM

Nothing wrong with calling him up and asking him to go out. But be prepared for the possibility of him saying he's busy since he said to you "have a good weekend". He may truly be busy if he's planning to be out of town midweek.

bikerguy · May 6, 2007, 04:38 PM

Its all fair game, but rejection is a *itch. Most men would be flattered!

bluerose · May 6, 2007, 04:56 PM

I say call him but prepare yourself for any out come. Plan not to be upset or feel rejected if he is busy. Just finish by wishing him a good night and a "call me tomorrow."

jillygirl524 · May 6, 2007, 08:40 PM

i would wait like 2 more days

brandy681 · May 6, 2007, 08:45 PM

Call him and tell him you would like to see him before he leaves out of town. Whats the worst that could happen!?

Krs · May 7, 2007, 01:44 AM

Call him...
Go on, you know you want to

brkfstatiffs · May 7, 2007, 10:23 AM

Thanks for all the responses on the previous question. Sunday early evening rolled around and I sent him a text with "what are you up to later"...to my suprise no reply or call. I didn't want to call him because I knew he had a busy day and didn't want to interupt it too bad, if he was still in the middle of all his stuff. Was I in the wrong to initiate that question? He was the one who asked when he will see me again a few nights earlier, but we never set anything in stone, and although he told me to have a good weekend when we departed after a great night, I felt like I was casually letting him know I was available that evening if he wanted to hang. But why didnt he reply? I don't get men sometimes, they act eager to see you and then when us girls get the balls to call or let them know we're interested, no response. What's that about?

AW805 · May 7, 2007, 10:59 AM

He's busy. Doesn't matter with what. If he's wants to see you again then he'll call. Hate to say this because I don't like games (I'm sooo glad I'm married) but when he calls don't be so available. Reading your question, it seems as if you are just casually dating and nothing serious. You should go out meet other people and stop waiting for things to happen. I don't think there's anything better than being around friends and family.

At the end of the next date, take a more direct approach and talk about when you'll be seeing each other again.



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