I am curious now that we are over, should i keep in contact with any friends. There is three types of friends.
1. Friends that she knew first and i am friends with them and more so with spouses.
2. Friends we both met at the same time.
3. people we know through church, baseball ect.

I don't attend the same church ( she is united and i'm catholic) but we did take turns visiting each other churches. I even volunteer for many fundraisers as does she.
I joined another baseball league but still run into people we know.

So do i cut them all off. how do i decide.

What do i say if ask about the breakup. Some people ask what happened.

I know know that she has lied about who cheated in her last relationship and she said to people it was him.( a lie)

ForeverZero

Here's the deal. You're not in charge of what she thinks. In fact, you're so far from caring about what she thinks right now, you're james dean. He may be dead, but that only further proves my point that he doesn't care. You do what you feel is appropriate, and move away from behavior that you plan on her response for. I would, however, advise that you don't talk about her to them. I'd guarantee everything you say about her will get back to her, and that's ALWAYS a bad thing. She needs you to be over her. She doesn't need to hear from her friends that you're depressed and miserable, because that'll just make her feel sorry for you, and lead you in a direction you don't want to go in. I did all this 2 months ago, trust me dude, i did all these things a few months ago, and i'm sure there's no shortage of people on here that'll tell you it's stupid.

ForeverZero

Also, as far as when people ask what happened. The polite way of saying it's none of your business is to say "Ask her". If they're mutual friends, and care, they will. Your responses are going to be loaded and they will certainly get back to her. You need to not feed anything that's going to allow you to think that they might go back and be a middle man to rescue you.

toronto guy

I just don't want to be seen as the person who did the cheating. that's what she said about her ex husband to people. Later i found out that it was her that cheated.

winding200

People are not stupid, and always find out the truth. Why do you think she will say you as cheater if you didn't?

I wish

There's no reason to stop talking to your friends. The only thing I recommend is to let your friends know that you prefer not to be invited to events where your ex will be there, to avoid unnecessary complications. If they were really your friends, they would understand and respect your wishes.

But don't forget, a friendship is a two-way street. They have to want to be friends with you too, just warning you that they might side with your ex and stop being friends with you.

I hate to say it, but these are times when you find out who your real friends are.



Edit: I just realized that this question was asked years ago, so this answer is for future reference