Affair

You should have walked away from the very start. There's a long list of wrongs that accompany the word "affair", but it's too late now, you've already wrecked that home, whether she was in a bad relationship or not. Back off, before things get worse.

Not the answer I wanted to see!!!!! I love her too much to walk away & she says she doesn't want me to.

But I know if we are to have a chance she has to leave but don't know if that's possible.

Thanks for the reply

Now what worries me is that you don't find your actions wrong in any way. Put yourself in her husbands shoes, how would you feel if your wife was running along telling another man that she loves him.

Now as far as an answer goes, you just need to back off, and let her decide whether she's going to move on from him or not, you have absolutely no control over that. If she does not want to ruin her family, you need to respect her decision and move on. Plain and simple.

But she says she's only staying for the kids & that she only wants to be with me.

Do I not need to save her from herself as surely it's not acceptable to let her live an unhappy life.

Yes, you should walk away, but not so that she doesn't have to make that decision, but because you should respect her and her marriage, and learn that married women are off limits to you.

Like I said, it's out of your control. It's her relationship, and she needs to be the one to decide whether to leave it or not, not you. You can either sit around and wait or move on, it's your choice, but you have absolutely no control over the outcome of her relationship. That's her decision.

'walk away' may not have been the answer you wanted to see, but that is the question you asked yourself and posted
it.

We have been through this whole scenario SO many times before. The woman does not want to leave her marriage for, whatever reason, huaband is not attentive any longer; ahe doesn't want to upset the kids....it goes on an on. The point here is, you are actually upsetting a marriage, and that is not right. She could probably go on forever seeing you and always giving excuses why she can't bring herself to leave, because, and the truth be told she really doesn't want to. She can have her cake and eat it too!!

Old saying 'if you love them, let them go'.

Of course you walk away because she cheats with you, and may cheat on you. Keep in mind that she says she is unhappy with the guy she was happy enough to have kids with. So what makes you think the same won't happen to you, when things happen and she is unhappy with you?

Oh thats right, she would never cheat on you because you are in love, and so is she. Probably felt that way with her husband at on time.

For sure, you staying with a married woman isn't motivating her to divorce her husband who must not be to bad if she wants him to stay in her kids life. Maybe you show her more attentions, because you can and don't live with her, or her kids. Or maybe you are better in bed, I don't know, but I do know if she were as unhappy as she says she would do something about it. Oh, let me correct that, she is doing something about it with you, the guy on the side.

Of course you leave her alone until the divorce is final. Till then you are just the other guy, and she keeps her family life, and all that goes with it.

You guys obviously make slot of sense but in the other hand:

I kno she is telling the truth that she wants to be with me & only there for the kids.

& I kno that if she stays it's absolutely only for the the kids sake but surely that's wrong for her, for him & for the kids?

If I did walk away I still think its wrong for her to stay & even unfair to everyone else involved.
And I say all this as someone who only wants the best for her whether we were ever to be together

Thanks