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Old May 23, 2009, 05:06 AM
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Hi! Im a filipina married to a pakistani. He had an affair with another filipina and got her pregnant. She went home to Phillippines but now wants to come back here in Dubai. Can I file a case against her? Can I have her blacklisted here in Dubai? Please help me, she's really crazy even if my husband doesn't want to talk to her. She's been sending me disturbibg messages.

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Old May 23, 2009, 07:58 AM   #2  
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If anything you need to get a lawyer.

But why do you want to her blacklisted? What about your husband because after all is the one who cheated on you.

If she is pregnant then she is going have to be in contact with your husband for the next 18 years. She might even take him for child support. Your husband created this mess but some how I think your more upset with her.

Don't get me wrong she isn't a saint neither but I don't know what your husband told her. Did he tell her he was married? If so, of course she should have walked away.

Time for you to figure out if you are capable to deal with this situation or not but your husband is at fault here.

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I wish agrees: Exactly, why are you so concerned about her? What about your husband?
roxypox agrees: I was thinking the same thing... what about the hubby?
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Old May 23, 2009, 03:45 PM   #3  
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Am I missing something here? What about your husband cheating on you? This has nothing to do with the other woman. It's your husband's responsibility, not yours.

What you should be focusing on is regaining your husband's trust and respect. Cheating is unacceptable. How can you let him cheat on you and then help him sort out legal issues?

I wonder what else he gets away with...

Stand up for yourself, your husband should be begging you for forgiveness... otherwise it's time for you to dump him.
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Your husband should communicate to the child and send a monthly allowance. If he's not doing that, then you'll get this. I don't have so much knowledge on the laws there but If this woman is that desperate, she may even sue your husband for child abandonment and may be beheaded. Just change your personal phone number, request for restraining order and let your husband deal with this on his own.

Are you threatened that this woman may have your husband again? You took him back with a baggage so expect this.

(also Philippines just have one "L")
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I may be wrong, not up on all cultures, can he not merely have two wifes in Dubai.

But I see no reason or way to black list her
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There is no reason to blacklist her unless she has been threatening you.

If she is not from that country then there is no gaurantee she is going to be allowed to live there anyway.

If she does move to Dubai then that is your husbands problem... it is his child and he has to support it.

Get a laywer to work out visitation rights for the child and to work out how much child support he will have to pay.
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Um, why is it her fault that YOUR husband cheated? Why is your husband going out and impregnating other woman and you seem okay by this.

Let your husband do what's right and provide for the child. He had just as much to do with it as her.
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What are you going do when the baby is born? Try to have the baby blacklisted too?

I think you letting your husband get off easy but you want the girl to suffer and you want to make her life a living hell.

It is easy to blame the other person but you should be pointing the finger at the person right in front of you because nobody put a gun to his head and forced him to to cheat.

I hope you come back but someone how I don't think you are.
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If she is not from that country then there is no gaurantee she is going to be allowed to live there anyway.

If she does move to Dubai then that is your husbands problem... it is his child and he has to support it.
Filipinos go to Dubai to work and nothing else. I don't know any single Filipino who moved to Dubai permanently if they're not married to a UAE national. I guess this OP is worried that her husband and his "former" mistress will cross paths again but not because of the child support.

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