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Hello, i need some advice on my girlfriend. We have been seeing each other for around 8 months now and i hate to admit it but we aint had much of a physical relationship (were both 21). I'm quite shy and havent had much experience with relationships.she knows this however its only ever myself who initiates anything that happens between us (why is this? she knows what shes doing, as shes been in relationships b4 and i know shes had sex b4). I do really like her and i think she likes me but we just cant seem to hit it off. We seem to get on fine and hav had no arguments but all i ever get is a kiss at the end of the nite (which i think if i never initiated wouldnt happen). Im now stuck in the paraniod thots of is she still interested? does she think im going to refuse any advancements or will she refuse my advancements? or is she waiting to tell me she wants to be friends? this is making times even more difficult on trying to get intimate with her, as i feel that this would improve our relationship grately if we did but i just cant find the "right" moment (basically because when were together theres a lack of intimacy or physical contact causing any advencements to seem out of context). please get bk to me on is as its screwing with my mind and feelings. thanks for you time and help
Would it be so hard for you to sit with her and talk with her.
Ask her all the questions you asked me?
she is the only one who can give you an answer, not me.
Yup, I agree, this is something you two should sit down and discuss. If you can't discuss sex then how can you actually have sex. Start talking and keep talking.
Maybe in her friend zone like Wildcat said, but.... devil's advocate here
What if she is waiting for you to make the move since you are a virgin and she is not. She may be waiting for a signal from you that it is okay with you to have sex with her.
She may not want to "de-virginize" you unless she knows you are okay with it. Have you discussed this with her?
She's probably waiting for you to be more assertive. That's probably what you need to do. Don't bother waiting for any "right time" ; just make it happen if that's what you want.
Is that all you have to complain about? Talk to her!! Maybe she's wondering if you'll respect her in the morning! Or maybe she isn't ready.........................start talking to her. Assume nothing!
Yes assume nothing. i do think it is a possibility though (like i rep'd on J_9's post) that perhaps she is respecting the fact that you are a virgin and doesnt want to push you into something that you arent ready for.
Talk to her.
Whats the new word on the list????
COMMUNICATION.
someone on here said it before that often when someone just simply asks there partner something that is troubling them they often get the answer they expected or wanted from the one they love. So ask...
you might be pleased with the answer.
Never assume, assuming can be the brother of all F**K ups..
talk to her.. communicate with her, and im sure all will be fine, then you know where you stand with her, instead of wondering and asking yourself all sorts of questions!
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