I have been dating this girl for 6 years. I was 19 and she was 17 when we met. Everything thing was good she would always tell me I was her future husband and that we were going to have this family and perfect life. She graduated in 2009 and got a job in early 2010 I'm graduating this year.

Like any relationship we have had our share of arguments but work through them. So four months ago she started being distant she would have conversations with like if I was her friend it wasn't the usual conversations with the name calling not the bad name calling like babe and what not so I asked her what was wrong and she would tell me nothing was wrong but it was obvious something was wrong.

Well our 6 year anniversary was coming up in 2 weeks which happens to be my birthday. She came over to my house and when she was there she acted and looked at me with loving eyes but I felt like she wanted to leave. Well after the night was over I talked to her about what was going on. She told me nothing so I figured the worst that she was cheating on me. So she wasn't cheating on me and two days later calls me and tells me she wants a break so I tell her if she wants a break it will be a permanent break and hung up and left it at that.

A week later I message her telling her I might of overreacted and that I would agree to the month break. Well a week later she calls me tells me she misses me and is crying. I tell her I miss her as well and she wanted to meet but I told her no. I wanted to wait till the end of the 30 days so I left it at that. 2 weeks later she calls me and we meet up. She tells me she wants take things slow but doesn't want to give labels of boyfriend and girlfriend so I told her I don't want to be friends which she was basically implying and she agreed to be boyfriend and girlfriend but to take it slow.

I call her the next day to tell her if she wanted to hang out and she said yea but made all kinds of excuses about going out. For example I told her lets go to dinner her response was I don't eat dinner. I was like OK?. she was basically lying and I called her out on it and she told me she didn't need to explain anything to me because I wasn't her boyfriend. OK so I was like what?? I was upset and hung up on her. I called her on Monday and asked why she acted like that. She told me that she didn't love me and that broke my heart she said she didn't want to play with me and I accepted it and never called her after that.

Well 2 weeks later she calls me with some lame excuse about her needing my help. So I returned her call and she started talking to me about how I was doing and if I was dating anyone and nonthing about her needing help. I didn't call her out on it I just went along with it. We talked for like 10 min and the hung up. I was confused about it. Well 2 weeks later she calls me telling me we had a great relationship and that her family misses me and that her friends miss me and she started crying and told me she wanted to give a shot just me and her and not to involve our families for the time being. So I agreed but I had my doubts and had my guard up.

Well we went out twice after that and on the second date I asked her if we were getting back together as boyfriend and girlfriend and she said she didn't know to giver her two weeks. She was going on vacation with her familiy so I agreed. When she came back she told me she didn't want to give me 50 percent of her she wanted to give me 100 percent and she said right now wasn't a good time and that she wanted to focus on her life. So I was once again been told she wanted to work it out to not wanting to work it out so I finally had enough of her games and didn't say anything besides all right and I hung up.

Sorry for the long story any advice as to what to do and any advice as to why she played me this whole time and confused me would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading my story

Just for the future -- if you ever post a long thing again anywhere, please break it up into paragraphs. I'm guessing you are going to get yelled at by people who don't want to read such a long story with wall-to-wall words. Capitalizations would be nice too. :D

Why you got played: She feels guilty. She doesn't want to be boyfriend-girlfriend any long and wants to see what else is out there for her, but like I said, she feels guilty, plus her family and friends add to that guilt. Also, she doesn't want you as a boyfriend any longer, but she doesn't want you to move forward and not think about her and miss her terribly. Her id has moved on, but her ego won't let you go.

Stop talking to her, and you won't be led on. Its really simple, when you get dumped you disappear, not go back to be dumped again, or led on, or played.

Its hard after six years to just let someone go, and I think that's the whole reason behind both your actions. You break up, but don't let go! Time to let go.

Passion and dedication both are essential elements needed for long term and healthy relationship. However one thing to keep in mind is passion can fade away in time and when it is fading it's all up to the dedication part to make the relationship going and reproduce the faded passion. What your GF experiencing right now is that her passion she has for you is probably start to fade thus she began to feel confused about what she feels, however main point here is she still has a lot dedication and some little passion ( thanks to the 6 years process ) to you which being the sole reason she still miss you and unable to let you goand whether this relationship can continue or not it depends on you both whether you still want to dedicate into this relationship and recover the faded away passion once again or you want to give up on her. At least that is my objective opinion.

If I were in your shoes though ( subjective opinion ) :d I wouldn't let her go because really I would appreciate her dedication and the passion she still has for me and being courageously still asking me to go back and keep in contact with me. Besides this sentence :
She did stated that she wants to give 100 % of her to you, however the time isn't good yet because right now both of you still need to recover the passion that have been lost.

I think you let her go and end the drama and games.