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...I met this girl. She is very beautiful, smart,ambitious very independent. She has two children who are half spanish and irish. I am spanish and I have 3 on my own. When we first met, she mentioned that she has two ex-husbands and that her current BF lives in Puerto Rico and she only sees him once or twice a month. From her tone, he doesn't seem to be permanent.This girl also came to me first and introduced herself to me.... Now I am not a jealous type at all and I understand dealing with the ex-husband,ex-BF, male friends etc.. Bu she also told me that day she would never again hook up with a spanish man because of her past experiences with them From there, I thought I wouldn't have a chance so I moved forward and not go for it.When I saw her again a week later, she told me that she met this spanish guy that she thinks is very cute and she has been talking to him.First of all, I never asked her about it and second, I thought she had a BF?? We talk some more then I find out that she knows the same circle of friends as I do and admitted to me that she dated a few friends I know.I smiled and nodded told her that I would mention it to them that I ran into her and we laughed about it.She came up to me a few days after and asked if I have mentioned her to my friends. I shrugged it off like I forgot about it and she looked embarrassed that she asked and walked away .. I run into her again a week later and as soon as I see her, she comes right out and says that she just met this spanish guy the other day with the same name as me, told me that they text each other, that he's cute and she is thinking about him..I said cool!!
Now, why is she telling me all this?? I just met her about 3 weeks ago.. Is she trying to tell me that she is definitly not interested in me? Cuz it's working and I never really showed any interest in her in the first place because I am very shy and stubborn........Or does she want me to go after her? Honestly, I wasn't sure when she told me that she had an relationship and that she was talking to some other guy she met at a bar.And I am usually not the type to go after anyone who has a BF,husband etc... I sound like a big WOOSE but I already went through all this in my youthful days up to my mid 20's before I had children..And the outcome always sucked so I learned from it and became more cautious..maybe too cautious now!! But I'm still interested in her and I think she is beautiful and everything she does with herself(besides her mentioning of meeting other guys while she has a BF) is everything I wanted in a girl..She's a good mom, great with kids, friendly..
But I think I used to pull tricks like this on girls I liked when I was in Jr. High but do adults do that as well?? Maybe she IF you have read this, I would love to know what all your thoughts on this..If this makes any sense!!
Ok, a woman telling you that she would never want to date a spanish man and than telling you she has a bf, and then telling you she met a spanish guy who was cute and had the same name as you.... sounds to me like shes testing some waters here. Asking if you have mentioned her to your friends was a definite way of seeing you are thinking of her (hence the reason for her embarrassment when you "forgot")
I definitely think shes interested.. as regaurds the question about her wanting you to go after her.. yes i think that too! There would be no other reason to tell you about these men if she had no intention of a) making you jealous b) making you curious as to why other men and not you
It all goes back to what she said in the beginning about not wanting a spanish man knowing you were spanish and then "conveniently" these men shes telling you about are spanish... lol In a way shes telling you shes interested but wants to be chased.. and telling you that you have a shot! Or trying to because of the little response you give her after she mentions these things. It's sorta like shes striking matches against you to see which one will ignite the flame u know? Because it seems like everytime she sees you she has a new boy to mention... lol
But on the other hand it is definitely good that you are cautious and i do not think that it is being too cautious givin the fact that she said she has a bf. That is very respectful on your part to be sort of stand offish to that. However I think maybe you should talk to her some more, especially if you're interested... give in a little instead of "cool" lol and see where that goes... chances are shes looking to make convo withthat anyways. Try to get her to talk about her Bf somemore.. the fact that you mentioned she didnt seem to hopeful about him seems like shes not really that happy with him... and i'm tellin you some girls will use that to get sympathy from a guy they like.. not that that is a bad thing.. lol just sayin
Anywho this was just all my observation but i do think there is some interest on her part... just indulge her a lil and see where it goes if you are sincerely interested back.
Beautifuldiva.. Thank you!! That was beautiful ..Thank you also Gillion for taking your time. I hope I can help you too sometime..
I just dont think it's right that her BF is way out there is she's doing this..I know Long distance relationships are had to manage but if she with him and continues to be on the prowl, shouldn't she end that first then trying to juggle two, three, who knows?? I couldn't do it.. I felt too guilty about it..
No it's not just sex.I do think she's very sexy but honestly I am not about that anymore.. I know I can get sex if I persist..If she didn't have a BF or mention any guys from the start then defitnitly yes, I would have went for it!!!
U are very welcome! And yes she should not be doing this.. hence the reason i asked you to get her to talk about her bf... there may be more to the relationship that is making her unhappy... But yes it is so wise on your part to continue to be cautious about it. If this is your gut feeling that its not right what she is doing, then I say go with that... this situation could be telling you what kind of gf she would be.. i say "could" be because you havent talked to her about her situation yet... but if you choose not to because you are unsure then dont. Who's to say that she'l get you and then u'll be just another guy on her list... but none of that can definitely be confirmed.. just assumed.
And yes long distance relationships are hard but if she is satisfied with her man she would have no reason to be "flirting", in my opinion, with you. I say this because I currently am involved in one and know the hardships but also know that i am completely satisfied with my bf and have no reason to display otherwise especially to another boy.
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