and its killing me, i woke up this morning with this awful feeling inside my stomach, i cant get rid of it.

All i can think about is her and its drivin me crazy. i just want to let her know how much she means to me, that although i didnt realise what i had at the time i sure do now and would give anything for a second chance.

i love her so much and its breaking my heart

bigbird213

Your sure he wont let go of her??

That's exactly what he needs to do.

zooropa1985

ok so its day 3 since she text me and ive not heard from her since.

Ive been thinking for the last few days and something has been bothering me and even people who i have talked to about it.

If she wanted to end it then why tell me about her kissing another guy? i mean was to to cause me pain? she texts me saying she loves me and wants me but that shes kissed someone else, i didnt reply at the time so she sent me another one saying shes shaking cause shes hurt me so much.

Sadly i said i would forgive her but the next day she was back to her BS ways, needing space, not wanting to see me.

The other thing that bugs me is shes kicked me to the kerb but shes happy to stay friendly with the guy she kissed. She blames me for all this and shes told me that.

Ive been betrayed twice now in the space of a year by two girls that said they "loved me". i just feel so dam used!!

bigbird213

Use those feelings to motivate yourself to not talk to her. The longer you can go, the easier it becomes. Set a goal for yourself, then when you get there - double it.

The questions you are asking are common ones, we have all had them. You are best spent not worrying about these questions because in honesty, they don't really matter anymore.

nickshehe

So you've seen that being nice and forgiving to a girl who clearly doesn't deserve that sort of treatment. Perhaps you could consider the "rude" option that you disregarded earlier?
If anything this should make it an easier decision for you..I'm sorry and I truly sympathize with you but can't you see the unnecessary pain she's putting you through? You don't have to go through it if you don't want.
If you analyze every word and every action that she's done pre-breakup and post-breakup - I GUARANTEE you will go insane. It's not worth it.
My ex was all over me a week before she was suddenly "confused about us" - what a joke.
Do what's best for you mate.

chuff

You are thinking logically. She think emotionally. You are learning first hand the difference between men and women.....well one of them. She told you she kissed the other guy to cause you not only pain but confusion. Furthermore, should you get back together it's an easy way for her to break up with you again and throw it back in your face by saying, "What did you expect, I already told you I wouldn't wait around for you the first time when I kissed the other guy." She tells you she loves you so you don't run to far off. It's her way of controling you through emotions. When you didn't respond to "I love you" she then goes in the opposite direction to get a reaction from you by saying she's "in pain" from missing you.


Because she knows she has you. You caved in to her game by giving her forgiveness even after she told you she kissed someone else. You took the challenge from her and I believe I posted once in another post for some guy from Ireland, "Once the challenge is gone, so is she."


What a b*tch. This proves she's just playing games.


Well, I get what your saying but again I point out that you give so much of yourself that you save nothing for yourself. Again, the first person in a relationship is you, not her. They will use you if you let them, and you have given more then 50% for both of these relationships.

zooropa1985

Your right on so many levels.

The truth is that i think im more angry now than anything else, yes i have moments where i miss her but then i think of what she did and it makes me hate her.

i guess once the anger dies down then so will all the feelings i have towards her.

btw just wanna say thanks to everyone who is there for me on this, means a lot

Jiser

The challenge has gone! Check my sig for the fammiliar Zoo/Chuff experiance.