Ok i know this is a typical question most people ask but i need advice. Me and my boyfriend rarely fight and rarely disagree. We have so much fun when we are together. but My boyfriend of 5 months wants to take a break and i don't!!!!!!. He said he love's me but is not "in love" with me and he thinks we should at least take a break. He has been overwhelmed these past two days but we spent the weekend together and had a blast. Why did this all of the sudden happen? we have not talked since we said that. How/What do i say to get him to try to make this relationship work? we are young so being "in love" should come later. So i think we should focus on being happy and having fun right now not too serioud of stuff. What do i do?

well he texted me yesterday saying these exact words " maybe there is a shot for us in the long run but i don't want a relationship right now" we used to spend a lot of time together until we realized it was hurting us so we decided to only see each other at school and have a date once or twice a week. well at first he said he wanted a break so i said okay we can take a break and he texted back " no we're breaking up" i don't get it. he has never acted like this before. even his friends who have known him longer than me think this is werid. i have not texted him or called him since he texted me that so i am proud of myslef for doing that but i dont know what to do i have class with him on monday because spring break will be over but he sits right next to me what do i do???

chuff

Just how young are you?

Just from what you write here, he sees you as more of a friend, not a lover.

easilyamusd

we are 16. the thing is we are so happy when we are together. we loves to cuddle and hold me and kiss me and dance. and i don't know what to say when i talk to him next...

svatnsdal

I ask the same as chuff, how old are you?
A lot depends on your age, if you're a teen or young 20's, looking for love is the last thing you want to do! That will come later in life, you need to go through lots of heart breaks before you learn what love really is.
I think he is a guy that just jumps from girl to girl.

easilyamusd

well i've been in a year long relationship before and that ended HORRIBLEY!!! but i'm his first girlfriend... it sucks because it hurts so much and i have classes with him all day every day.

svatnsdal

Girl, walk away! you are 16, it is just a fling! Love is something you don't learn till you are well into your 20's, sometimes 30's. I'm a lot more then twice your age and you just need to walk away! Just find another boyfriend!

easilyamusd

it's just hard to walk away. i'm proud of myself for not harassing him with texts and phone calls... i have hope he'll call and want me back, but i'm sick of being hurt. So when we talk next should i keep hope or give up? i hate hurting

svatnsdal

A love sick puppy is someone who just keeps nagging the other for another chance. Give up on this guy, just find another! When you get to my age, I guarantee you will look back at this boy and say, 'what the hell was wrong with me?'
Stand up and hold your head high! Show you are a strong woman who is happy to be single again. That will hurt him, and show him what he lost! Just walk away!

chuff

Well you are learning some real lessons about love.

RULE NUMBER ONE. Never, and I mean never speak for the other person. Your message is filled with "WE." You were happy with him, not we were happy together. When you see him again, keep it short and be happy. His decisions do not control your life. In this situation I try to think what I would do if I was seeing this person in 10 years from now, the reality is there would be no emotional attachment so act like that person in the future.

svatnsdal

Um, shouldn't you be in school?!