I need help dealing with being a lesbian

jokertown · #1 Nov 9, 2006, 07:52 PM

I dont really know if this is the right place to post this but i have a problem and was wondering if some of you might help me out. Im a lesbian, and im 17 and just feel SO alone about the whole gay thing cause I live in Tennessee (not saying its a bad place to live) and not a lot of people around here are really accepting of gay people. I get a lot of crap from people saying "its wrong" or "its a sin and im going to hell" or some guy wants to "straighten" me out. I live with my grandparents and aunt, they think im gay (I havent told them, they just pick on things i guess). They always like to make comments at me like saying im "trying to take my brother's girlfriend" or that "God will punish you for the way you are". Its like hard enough to deal with, without my family saying hurtful things to me. At times they just call me names for no reason, in a way I feel like coming out to them cause I think maybe they will just cut back on the things they say; but I dont know if that would be such a good ideal? If any of you can help me out with this I would LOVE it! PS, please dont send me any messages telling me im going to hell or that im weird. Thankx a lot. PLEASE HELP.

rkim291968 · Nov 9, 2006, 08:06 PM

Just hang in there until you become independent.

giggles · Nov 9, 2006, 08:06 PM

You're not going to hell and you're not weird!
I think you should repost this in the sexuality section, as more people may see it who will be able to give you advice.
Do you have anyone, a friend in your neighbourhood for example, who you can talk to?

mxpx45 · Nov 9, 2006, 10:33 PM

I voted "No" for ya! I think it was no. it was whatever the one that said gays can get married in tennesse and they have rights

Krs · Nov 9, 2006, 11:39 PM

Closed minded people should be banned from such thoughts.
You are not weird for being gay, you are not harming society and you are not harming yourself or noone, so please bare that in mind.

I have absolutley nothing agaisnt gays,we are living in a society where all is possible, there are FAR FAR more worse things in life that happen, being gay is no big ordeal. Its a part of life and we should all accept it.

Im on your side honey, and dont put yourself down and dont let others put you down, always remember you are normal, and its something in you that you cannot change its part of who you are.

Fluffy Clouds · Nov 12, 2006, 10:19 AM

Im 21 and i always new i like girls but could never say it out loud last year i met a girl where i work and she was a lesbion we became really close and i admitted my feeling about girls we ended up kissing and we became involed for 6 months we are still good mates just not together when i told my best friend who is like my sister and i love her to bits that think im bi she was disgused with me! i turned around after a couple of weeks of her being all off and strange with me and told her that if she can not except the way i am then we can no longer be friends. She was so hurt by me saying that she had no choice it was either lose her her firend she had none for years or just except it so she exceptred it we no go out to town in the gay village thats where there there are loads of bars for gay prople and she trys to choose girls for me now. What im trying to say is just come out with it if they dont like it i say its there problem and them being weird not you your being honest and open so i say go for it and dont let anyone get you down!

J_9 · Nov 12, 2006, 11:34 AM

Yes, I saw that, but then there was this:

we no go out to town in the gay village thats where there there are loads of bars for gay prople and she trys to choose girls for me now

So, either she is fooling with a married man, lesbian, bi, or none of the above and pulling our legs.



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