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Me and my 2 children moved in with my boyfriend in a house he owns outright.[no morgage payment]. Anyway, to make long story short, I told him 2 days ago, I was wanting to move out cause, I just can't handle living with him anymore. He said he wanted his key back and I said no, I need it to get in. [ I am not stupid on what he was planning to do] I haven't found a new place as of yet. Anyway, lastnight he asked for the key again, I said no. He got angry and took the lock and knobs off the front door but, not off the back door. I told him he had better put the knobs and lock back or I would call the sheriff because, I have 2 children here and that is called child endangerment. He threw the knobs and all out in the front yard in the dark and said, call the sheriff.
So, I did and they let me know that it's his house and he can do what he wants to it but, they also told him that the children and myself live here so it my house too. I told them that he has harrassed me for 2 days and it making it impossible for me to go look at another place for fear of being locked out or keeping our things. He told me he was going to have the electric turned off today. I live in Indiana and I need help on what my rights are. I just wanted to leave in peace but, he won't let me.
Thanks for any help.
In all honesty what do you expect.
You have told him you can no longer live with him and you're moving out.
COME ON WAKE UP !!!!!
YOU are the one being UNREASONABLE in this.
You are expecting to live there until you find alternative housing, yet you are refusing to comply with his requests.
What do you think would happen after you told him you were living ?!?!
Did you really expect him to take it calmly.
WHAT PLANET ARE YOU ON !!!!!
To cap it all you are using YOUR children as a weapon against him.
How LOW is that !!!
Rights, what rights.
As you have already said, and so has the Sheriff, it's HIS house.
YOU have ZERO rights in that regard.
You are simply his (ex)girlfriend and that's it.
No, I am not using my children againt him at all. I expect him to be mature and let me get a new place to move in a reasonable amount of time without fear of not being able to get back in and get our belongings. I don't have a problem giving him his key after, I move out. The man has NEVER in 5 yrs. locked his door and now cause, I want to move he does, bull!!!
By the way the children are NOT his and you are mean and have not giving me any good advice at all. All, you have did is to put me down. The sheriff said, it is my house TOO!
Is there anyone out there who can honestly help without BASHING not knowing the whole story?
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Originally Posted by Curlyben
In all honesty what do you expect.
You have told him you can no longer live with him and you're moving out.
COME ON WAKE UP !!!!!
YOU are the one being UNREASONABLE in this.
You are expecting to live there until you find alternative housing, yet you are refusing to comply with his requests.
What do you think would happen after you told him you were living ?!?!
Did you really expect him to take it calmly.
WHAT PLANET ARE YOU ON !!!!!
To cap it all you are using YOUR children as a weapon against him.
How LOW is that !!!
Rights, what rights.
As you have already said, and so has the Sheriff, it's HIS house.
YOU have ZERO rights in that regard.
You are simply his (ex)girlfriend and that's it.
I told him he had better put the knobs and lock back or I would call the sheriff because, I have 2 children here and that is called child endangerment.
Not using your children against, would you care to rethink that ?!
This just makes it worse:
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By the way the children are NOT his
As I said, what did YOU expect after your announcement ?!?!
Did you honestly think he'd simply allow you to remain in HIS house while you are making arrangements to leave him !!!!!
What would you have done? Sneak out? I understand about him not being happy about me moving but, neither of us have been happy about how things have been going so, what would you suggest? Stay and everybody be miserable?
True enough but, I do know in Indiana a judge will give me 30 days. Thats more than enough time for me to move and everyone is on the same page and protected.
Actually, if you don't own the house nor did you sign a lease, you can be kicked out of the house at anytime. You really should have thought things through. If you were planning on moving out, I am sure it didn't happen one morning. You have thought about this for some time, in which you should have been looking for a place to live.
Isn't there somewhere else that you can live temporarily until you find your own place? Friends? Relatives? Coworker?
The sooner you get out, the better. It's an extremely unhealthy environment for your children and waiting for you to find your own place is not in the best interest of your children.
When you broke up with him, he has absolutely no obligations to you. Find someone to live with as soon as possible, friend, family, co-worker, don't be shy to ask around.
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