Someone please help! I divorced my husband 10 years ago because he made me choose between my marriage and our unborn child. I choose our child and had a beautiful baby girl alone. Since then my ex has kept me on the back burner with promises that one day we will be together. Last weekend I discovered that another woman had been staying with him at weekends and he introduced her to our daughter, I'm devestated and don't know how to get through this. Our 18 year old son hasn't spoken to him for 3 years because of how he treats me, and he is giving this as the excuse for not being a family. We had a very bitter divorce and I went through pregnancy and birth alone just hoping that once he saw the baby he would change his mind but he has been dangling the carrot ever since. Trouble is I love him and can't see a future without him, but I also know I can't go on like this.
On my request we've not had contact for three months because it's worse when I see him, so he's picking up or daughter from my moms house. Help, I don't know where to go from here.

imation

well firstly, good decision divorcing him when he made you choose, that was a big mistake on his part because how could he posibly win?
secondly.. what have the last ten years been like? raising your daughter, your son? you say you cant go on like this, you've been going for ten years now... and with the support of your kids could you not make it without your ex? could you see youself moving on and finding a spose somewhere else? just because our ex's are the ones we know the best and can easily adapt to, doesnt always make them the best choise, hang in there, love comes to those who wait and impatience comes to those who seek it.

talaniman

You have other post on this subject thru out this forum, so now your looking for a psychic to solve your problem? You will always have feelings for your ex and are tied to him thru your daughter. Accept he has moved on and work to get a life without him. Do the things you enjoy and stop worrying about what he does. But of course you already know all that since that is what everyone has told you already. It is up to you to put actions behind the words and move on. what's stopping you from being happy? YOU ARE.

kay13

Sorry talaniman, I realise there are two posts - they were originally posted on the same day and then one disappeared, only to re-appear at a later date, I'm not sure why.
I have taken note of all comments and am feeling much better now, looking forward to my future.