Hello, my name is Sarah. My birthday is 6/29/78. I am having a difficult time right now. Then man I'm in love with, and thought was in love with me, has broken up with me. We had our communication problems at times, but everything seemed ok. We spoke everyday...and saw each other all the time. He spoke of marriage in the future, told me he loved me everyday, seemed to care about me deeply. The only problem this gemini (06/08/77) had with our relationship is his need for "alone" time...he works hard and plays hard. But, at times he needed to just be alone. And my sensitive cancer self...sometimes took it personally.

This monday he broke up with me after a misunderstanding over the phone the night before. He thought I was trying to "control" him or something. the only thing I did was ask what he was doing after a race he was watching. He was having one of his nights...where he'd just like to be alone for a while. I jokingly talked pouted and asked again. He took this as me trying to "guilt trip" him into something. I wasn't trying to do so. But, it got blown out of proportion. He went on about how he never gets to do anything with his brother...which I had talked with him about. And he said that he can do stuff when his brother when he feels like it...and said sometimes he'd just rather be with me. So...I was supportive of his need to be with his family. I was supportive of everything he needed...as much as I could.

Why then...did he not call the whole next day? and when I wrote him an email...he finally answered with "part of me does want to be with you, but my practical side says it wont work. Im sorry, but Im callin' em as I see 'em. You want me to be honest, right? You are a very sweet, caring person and you deserve to be with someone who has more time for you. I just dont think Im that person at this point....................." He was focusing on the time he thinks I need...

But, in an IM he said that he's been having these feelings for a while...but they've been shaky. So, he's been feeling uncertain about us. There's this communication problem. Which is something we were working on...and pretty well until that night. I told him that I was hurt, not angry with him. And that I still wish there was something I could do to change it. I haven't really been myself lately...stressed with work, my child, etc. to which he answered "maybe were not ready for eachother right now..." I think he may also have issues b/c my daughter's father and I get along well...for the sake of our child. He even made a comment once "Are you sure you are over him? You talk about him alot." And I know that bothered him quite a bit. I DO NOT want her father back AT ALL. But, he will forever be a big part of "our" lives. And I told him I didn't want to lose him b/c I care about him and I feel so comfortable that I could tell him anything...and did. Which I guess got me in trouble in the EX dept. And I told him I'd still want him as a friend. But there's this wall there. And he said let time see what kind of wall it is...and that he wishes there wasn't one. But there are these things I want to tell him...about how I feel...and I just can't. B/C it's a "no-no". Then at the end of the conversation he says "goodnight, babe"...to which I told him was a little "too" nice. And he agreed not to do that anymore and that he was sorry.


I guess what I'm getting at....at not so swift a pace...is that I wonder if there is a chance for us. Either now or in the future. I love him very much...and I hate to see this end. He was the best thing that had ever happened to me in a relationship sense.

sorry this was so long...I just felt I should at least give some background to my question.

Could there ever be a "time" for us? I'm moving on as best I can...I even have a date this weekend to help ease my mind a little. Or at least, get my mind off him a little.