Hi McKenzie124,
I have PM'd you my thoughts and this is quite similar in some ways to my ex and our breakup.
My thoughts are that your ex met you very young, stayed with you for 3 1/2 years and now feels that she is missing out on the single life and wants to be young for a while... This may mean months but perhaps even years. 22 is still very young and she probably needs to find herself now. She may not be ready like you are and is in a different maturity level than you.
I had to ask myself the same questions, was I ready at 21? (my ex's age), no, I was enjoying being young and single, finding myself. This helps you to understand things better, it does not alleviate the emotional pain but it does help remove some of the confusion that builds up while we learn to accept the reality of what has happened.
My advice is to give her the space she desires, implement no contact and work on yourself for a while. She may never come back and you are going to have to accept this, and even if she did, you may not even want her back. Certainly try and give up on false hope as this is the dominant factor that debilitates the healing of someone who is left behind, trust me.
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