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LillysPad · Sep 25, 2008, 10:49 AM

I don't know what to do... I need answers! I've been in a relationship for almost 8 years and I'm reaching my complete mind body and soul breaking point... We split for a while like 2 months maybe less and he was seeing this girl who is obsessed with him... well I found a message she sent to my husbands friend talking about onces she's done telling him what she needs to tell him he might want to jump out a bridge and that she needs to tell him something impt. So the 1st thing that came to my mind was that she was pregnant I decided to call her and ask her and she won't give me an answer... she's tourmenting me and I tried to just talk to her woman to woman not yelling cursing her or putting her down in anyway and she still would not give me an answer and tells me talking to her is going to get me nowhere... I know that it will hurt but I need to know... if she's pregnant I could not accept him anymore... I'm filled with depression and anxiety! How could I know if she's pregnant?? Can I go to a Tarot and find out??
Ps. He keeps telling me no... but I think its b.c he's scared he will loose everything with me which is very true
I need help and don't know where to turn anymore...

mommyv · Sep 27, 2008, 06:22 PM

Well I don't think there's anything you can do. If he's not going to put her out of his life then you have to deal with it or get out now. Which honestly is probably what she wants, but if I were you, I'd tell him her or me because this is rediculos! You can't make her talk to you, you are her enemy because you have what she wants my dear and you obviously have trust issues with your man. I don't know, sounds like a mess I'd bail on.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 27, 2008, 08:02 PM

There is no fortune teller that will know, you need to look at this relationship on its own merits, it sounds like it is one that needs to be left alone

LillysPad · Sep 28, 2008, 06:39 PM

How exacly do I leave it alone after 8 years and a baby... if it were that easy I wouldn't be going through this... thanks guys for your interest in my post

LillysPad · Sep 28, 2008, 06:40 PM

I just feel so helpless and I fell like I deserve answers... I don't want to give her the satisfaction that she's destroyed us though its his fault as well

mommyv · Oct 1, 2008, 09:57 PM

I love it when people say it's just not that easy- and it's not- I know first hand but I have to say something- after you get it over with and you get over it- it really was that easy. Just walk out the door, simple. Deal with the bull after you make that simple move.

mommyv · Oct 1, 2008, 10:07 PM

Sorry got carried away. Really, only you can decide how hard it's going to be. It was hard for me to leave for three years and he never cheated, but when it came to the point where it was me and my daughter's life or his- I picked ours instead because the life he was leading was never going to be anything more than what it was. Now it's been almost four and half years and he is still exactly the same- and I mean exactly! I was better off the instant I did it and I'll admit I had my doubts a few times but as time went on and he went through "impressing me stages" but never stuck with the "improvement" I moved on. Now I'm married and have a beautiful home with a beautiful family and a husband who honestly spoils me to death. My ex still lives with his parents, has never had a drivers license, and I call him the fast food king because he can't hold down a job and just bounces from one fast food joint to the next. Imagine where you could be in five years.