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mikey49 · Jul 13, 2009, 03:35 PM

Maybe I've been booted from this site - I don't know, but I need some advice. I sent my ex-girlfriend a package for her to send back my belongings with a prepaid return label. She received it over a week ago, and there is no tracking information that she has sent it back. This girl just completely stopped talking to me, and I do not want to call text, or email her. How long should I wait to follow-up if I do not receive my items and how should I contact her?

Thanks for the advice!

macman11393 · Jul 15, 2009, 02:27 PM

She's obviously making a statement not sending it back. If it were me I would call and talk to her but don't kissup but show your still sorry cause if you don't get it soon it may be gone forever since she obviously does not care to send it back

mikey49 · Jul 15, 2009, 02:57 PM

Originally Posted by macman11393

shes obviously making a statement not sending it back. if it were me i would call and talk to her but dont kissup but show ure still sorry cause if you dont get it soon it may be gone forever since she obviously does not care to send it back

What statement is she trying to make? I did nothing to this girl! She has my $300 shades and I want them back. No point in calling either - she doesn't answer. Its crazy, its like she loves the attention, but its what pushed her away in the 1st place. Wouldn't she just want to drop them in the mail and be done with it? Man, I will never date another Gemini again, EVER!

I wish · Jul 15, 2009, 03:10 PM

Maybe you don't like the advice that you've been receiving in the past. If she doesn't want to return your calls or messages, then it's a clear message that she doesn't want to talk to you.

Stop bothering her, otherwise you will just push her away even more. Worse yet, she could get a restraining order against you.

Leave her alone and move on with your life.

mikey49 · Jul 15, 2009, 03:14 PM

Originally Posted by I wish

Maybe you don't like the advice that you've been receiving in the past. If she doesn't want to return your calls or messages, then it's a clear message that she doesn't want to talk to you.

Stop bothering her, otherwise you will just push her away even more. Worse yet, she could get a restraining order against you.

Leave her alone and move on with your life.

A restraining order because I sent her a prepaid return label to mail my $300 shades? OK. I don't bother her, call her, or text her. I think you missed the point of my question.

none12345 · Jul 15, 2009, 03:14 PM

Its just material things. You can always get new ones. Just leave it with her who cares if you don't get it back.

macman11393 · Jul 15, 2009, 10:51 PM

I understand its 300 dallors shades and you THAT REALLY SUX but if you can't get ahold of her and she won't send them then what advise can we give you I mean really your out of luck my only last advise is go to her house and ask for them but make sure she's home some how or talk to one of her friends maby (it may not be a option but I would not know) so that's all and the best of luck

Gemini54 · Jul 15, 2009, 11:16 PM

Well, I'm a Gemini, and I'd send your sunnies back...

Look, be realistic - there is no way in the world you can make her do what you want and give then back, short of appearing on her doorstep with the sunglasses police and ordering her to give them back at gunpoint.

Sorry, to be flippant, but I do relate to how you're feeling. I recently lost a pair of $499.00 (AUD) Gucci sunglasses and I was really pi$$ed off - but in the end there was nothing I could do. I looked for them, but they were gone - hasta la vista, as they say. Serves me right for buying expensive sunnies!

Essentially, you may have to resign yourself to the fact that you'll never see the Prada's again - then again, she might just be slow at sending things back, and you'll get them back in a month.

My advice? Act as if you're never going to see them again, put it down to experience, and if they come back it's a bonus. Let it go - it's not worth the angst.

artlady · Jul 15, 2009, 11:40 PM

There is a story that goes I let my friend borrow 50 bucks and he was such a jerk,he took my girl and wrecked my car also.I want my money back.

The moral is you got off cheap.He was a jerk and it only cost you 50 bucks to get rid of him.

That is one way of looking at this.

On the practical side,do you have a mutual friend who could intervene for you and contact her?

You could tell her that you are taking her to small claims court.
If you have any emails or texts that can prove she said she would return them ,that would help.

Bottom line,sometimes in this life ,it just isn't worth it and know that Karma is truly a :)

Gemini54 · Jul 15, 2009, 11:51 PM

HOLY FUDGE MONKEY! I want your job! I have 6 pairs of crappy sunglasses! D:<

My job isn't that good! I just occasionally have a 'blow out' and buy something really expensive!

Well, the universe got me back for being extravagant - I lost them!

I wish · Jul 16, 2009, 05:55 AM

Originally Posted by mikey49

a restraining order because i sent her a prepaid return label to mail my $300 shades? OK. I don't bother her, call her, or text her. I think you missed the point of my question.

She ALREADY KNOWS that she has your stuff. You don't need to remind her. If she wanted to return your things, she would have found a way. She doesn't need to calling her or texting her to remind her.

As everyone mentioned, mutual friend is an option.

jmooney527 · Jul 16, 2009, 06:04 AM

As artlady said, the only other route I would take would be have a mutual friend go over and get them. Other than that, you are kind of out of luck.

I'm a gemini as well, I give my exes all their crap back... I don't want that ish looming around my house!

mikey49 · Jul 16, 2009, 09:45 AM

Thanks for the advice peeps! She's been difficult enough and I was played like a drum. I did nothing to this girl to deserve not only the cold shoulder, but for her to think she is so special to play games with me and hold on to my shades. I can understand if I disrespected her, or did something cruel and she is holding on to them out of spite, but this is ridiculous. SO kind of statement is she trying to make?