I am feeling lonely.i don't know why i can't talk in public.i can't make eye contact even with my friends why?i m going to college soon my physique and look is very young so i am worried that will my big fellow will accept me.
give me tips to get bold in public.

fredg

Hi,
I just answered another of your questions in another category.
I am not a Psychic; don't pretend to be.
Not everyone needs to be "bold"....outgoing....a salesperson.
I was also nervous at 18 yrs old, even took a Speech class in college to help me overcome shyness. It helped.
You are feeling "shy" becuase you are afraid of your outward appearance. The way you look has nothing to do with talking with others, or making eye contact with them.
The next time you talk with a friend, force yourself, YES, force yourself, to look at their eyes; if only for a short time at first.
You can do it, if you try hard enough. I do wish you the best, and remember; Talk about others, not yourself. If they want to know something about you, then tell them.

DJ 'H'

This is a self confidence issue. You appear to have very low self esteem and confidence. being able to talk in public and feel comfortable around others all boils down to be comfortable with yourself.

I used to be like you a few years ago after a series of people contiuosly put me down and took the mickey out of me. I lost my confidence. I am a performer (singer, dancer, actress) and I was unable to do any of those things. I twas forced into it once and I was trembling and I could not even sing - it was so humiliating.

I got over it by friends reminding me who I was. They stuck by me through thick and thin and kicked me up the arse to get back into it all. They slowly and surely bought me back and saved me.

I now have so mch confidence, I can do anything.

It's hard but you really do have to learn to like yourself and to be yourself. The hardest lesson to learn is that if people don't like you for who you are - they are not worth knowing and any nasty comments made need to go in one ear and straight out through the other.

You sound like a really fab girl and I have every faith in you. You can do anything when you apply yourself.

Fr_Chuck

First we are all different, and we are not accepted by everyone no matter how hard. I am one of those loud talking people who talks to everyone, but that does not mean everyone that talks to me likes me. They may not rfully accept me for my religion, the fact I am partially disabled, that I am just so darn good looking.

But if you want to lean to speak to people, find and take a public speeking class, there sould be some available around a college area

Hypatia