will i still b able to have a baby?

gp_17 · #1 Apr 5, 2007, 07:47 AM

Im 17 years old, and me and my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex now for about 4 or 5 months, and i havent become pregnant. When i was 14, i had an abortion, and im scared that i wont be able to have a baby because of the abortion i had. Can i still have a baby, even though ive had an abortion? Also, after i had the abortion, i went straight on the pill, and i only came off it about 4months ago. Does the pill stop me from getting pregnant, full stop?
I know im young and i have my whole life to live, and i know being a mother is hard work. But i just need to know that i will be able to have a baby- when the time is right, to put my mind at rest.

EnglishRose · Apr 5, 2007, 08:13 AM

Being on the pill for a long period of time can mess with your cycle anyway, but because you started taking it at such a young age your cycle will have reverted to how it was just after your abortion and you were 14. This means that it could take your body a while to find its pattern again. It is also possible that you are not having sex on the right days. Having an abortion will not make you infertile. If you had suffered from infections as a result of the abortion then it may affect your fertility, but you woul have known about that at the time. All these things a side, a perfectly normal fertile couple will not always get pregnant first time. Usually if you have been trying for 6 months to a year your doctor will look in to it with you, but trying means having sex on the days that you are fertile not just in general.
HOWEVER,
I'm sure you saw this coming...getting pregnant just to find out if you can is not a reason to do it. You are far too young to be thinking about having a baby. Getting pregnant young by accident is one thing, but trying to is just madness. There are so many other things you should be doing first. Getting an education, being sure that you have a stable home and relationship to bring your baby into. Do you have the finances to have a baby? Access to a spare £10,000 this year? At 17 I didnt even have the money to finance my own social life. Are you totally independent of your own mother? These are all things that you seriously need to consider. Like you said you have you whole life a head of you so please, dont keep having un protected sex just on the off chance you wont get pregnant! Go see your doctor and see if he can help you find a form of contraception that will let you cycle return to normal and use it for a few years before you try again.

wagsthedog · Apr 5, 2007, 08:15 AM

No, having an abortion wont stop u falling pregnant again, having several will decrease the chances. We are all different and some take longer than others to fall pregnant, sometimes there is a medical condition (with man or woman), sometimes its lifestyle etc. If u go off the pill it can take a cycle or two, sometimes more before u will fall, i know of a few who have waited around a year... Abortions and miscarriages can muck things up for a bit...sometimes its just mother nature. Also, if ur not ready RIGHT NOW to have a baby why are u off the pill?
Thank u ENGLISHROSE

alkalineangel · Apr 5, 2007, 08:16 AM

I agree with English Rose...good solid advice. I second everything she said.

ncgirl_21 · Apr 5, 2007, 04:59 PM

Englishrose gave you the best advice and you should take that advice and if you plan on being sexual active please use some form of birth control even though not 100% effective it can prevent an accident. Wait till your a little older to get pregnant you have senior prom, graduation, possibly collage and collage can be a blast plus when you turn 21 u might wana go out and party just cause you can but you want be able to with a baby to take care of. THINK ABOUT IT!

EnglishRose · Apr 9, 2007, 07:48 AM

I totally forget that a lot of you cant drink until you are 21 (its only 18 here). As much as I do believe that alcohol should be respected and taken sensibly now, I think you should be old enough to learn this the hard way before you have children.
Go out, live a little hun. Its only when you have been young, independent and free that you can really appriciate commitment and stability.

gp_17 · May 22, 2007, 03:51 PM

Thanks for all your coments!!! Im gonna wait for the right time. And im from london by the way! lol xxxxxxxxxx



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