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I really need some advice on what to do, since you guys really seem to be very understanding, a couple of months ago i got pregnant with the IUD in well i lost that pregnancy not long after finding out, i have been taking birth control pills for a month now and i went to the doctor the other day for a yearly exam and found out that i'm PREGNANT again, i'm due Febuary 15, 2008.
I have two kids already and after the suprise of becoming pregant with an IUD then losing it i didnt think i would get pregnant again while on birth control, i'm not ready for another baby my oldest just turned six and my youngest is 20 months, and shes a hand full (still not sleeping through the night)
I feel so lost i feel like i dont want this baby which i know is a very harsh thing to say and i would have nevered considered getting rid of the baby before but now i feel so empty inside i have no happy feelings inside of me about this pregnancy and i hate myself for having these feelings.
Not to mention that i ahve started having panic attacks after my daughter was born so that adds to the pressure.
I could really use some advice.
Oh, girl I am so sorry you are feeling this way, but just know that these are your hormones speaking. It is your hormones making you feel this way right now.
Yeah, times might be rough, and you may not be ready, but everything in life happens for a reason.
Your youngest should be sleeping through the nite. There is something else going on here with her. I am sure that once we get this sleeping problem worked out and you get some proper sleep you will be feeling better.
Can you describe her bedtime routine? Does she have her own room? What do you do when she does wake up at night?
thanks for repling back i cant seem to stop crying i stayed up all night and prayed about these feelings and this morning i called my doctor to discuss the RU 486 pill she mentioned to me but i couldnt set the appointment up, i hate myself for the thoughts that i have but i cant help it, my heart feels so heavy and full of pain.
my daughter sleeps with my husband and i and wakes up about three times a night for her sippy cup or pacifer we are trying to break her from the pacifer but shes sooooo strong willed that its hard.
i hate to say but the way she acts at night and during the day is what makes me not want to do this again.
I can understand your frustrations. Now, it is most likely too late for the RU 486, I am not sure as I am 650 miles from my texts right now.
So, she sleeps with you. That is a problem in and of itself. This needs to STOP. You say that she is strong willed, but remember that you are the mother your husband is the father. What you say goes. PERIOD.
Now, remember that I am also a mother. I am a mother of 4. My children's ages are 21, 19, 13 and 5 (I just wanted to give you some background). So I am speaking from experience.
Let's not worry about the pacifier right now. Let's work on getting her into her own room first. We have to go one step at a time.
I know i really need to get her in her bed and i will strat trying here very soon.
My doctor told me that for the ru 486 i have until i am seven weeks and i believe i am only four weeks (LMP may 9, 2007)
My husband wants me to continue with the pregancy and i somewhat agreed but i'm having second thoughts, i just feel nothing inside and with my first two i was so excited.
Crystal, I think it's your signature that got my attention. Have you read it in awhile? You said "I will start trying here very soon." Your putting off the inevitable. You can't just try you really need to do. You know your feeling worn down because you aren't getting any sleep. Only you can put a stop to this and only you can do it for your own sake. I mean all this in the nicest way possible hun. Trying just wont cut it.
This is normal considering what you are going through with your daughter. So, take a deep breath in through your nose, then slowly out through your mouth and repeat "this too shall pass."
You say you will start getting your gal in her own bed very soon. How soon? Make a plan, mark it on the calendar and do it. Yesterday would not be too soon. Understand that the more you put it off, the easier it gets to make excuses, then it will never get done. Remember I speak from experience.
Let's work on tomorrow to get her in her bed. Yeah, it will be tough, it will be rough, but there will be a light at the end of the tunnel and it won't be a train. LOL
I was not aware that the RU worked that far into pregnancy. Let's just look at that for a minute. Remember when you were pregnant last time and you lost the baby? I think you were here then too weren't you? Remember the feeling of losing the baby by no fault of your own. Are you prepared to deal with the feelings of losing this one at your own hand? Nah, I know your not. Hun, I venture to guess that you are hormonal right now, probably tired and in desperate need of some sleep.
Let's work on tomorrow. When your gal gets up start preparing her for a night in her own bed. Does she take naps there? Talk to her about it. About an hour to an hour and a half before bed time give her a bath, no TV, relaxing activities.....Read books to her....let her know that she is a "big girl" and that big girls sleep in their own beds. Tuck her in with a hug and a kiss, but be firm. She has to stay in her bed. If she cries go in and soothe her, BUT, big but here, don't look her in the eyes. Put her back in bed and walk out. It will be hard the first 3 maybe 4 nights, but you will eventually get your own bed, back with your husband, you will get your rest. And, guess what......
You will feel BETTER.
I promise. I have been there done that. Just got over it with my 5 year old recently. You don't want her in your bed when she is 5 do you?
i understand that she needs to be in her bed but my main problem now is trying to figure out why i dont want to continue ths pregnancy and why i have such strong feelings about not wanting this baby.
one of the main reasons why shes not in her bed is because her brother sleeps in it because her room is next to ours and his is on the other end of the house and he gets scared, she has a toddler bed so what do i do when she gets up and comes bak to our bed?
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