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Asked Feb 23, 2008, 10:47 AM — 6 Answers
I am 14 and recently miscarried my third pregnancy... My first I had terminated the second I miscarried due to a stab wound to the stomach and as I said I've jus miscarried my third at 10 weeks.

My doctor told me my miscarriage was probably to do with the scar tissue and damage caused by the stabbing last time but I disagree as the surgeon who removed the blade from the wound said that it would all be fine and I'd be able to have a successful pregnancy...

I believe that my miscarriage was caused by 3 things...
1) at 7 weeks my brother stood on my stomach... Only for a second or so but it hurt......
2) I was thrown into a desk during a row with a family member and banged my stomach quite hard this was at 9 weeks.....
3) none of my friends knew I was pregnant so I go a few minor bashes every so often...

I just wanted to know what you guys thought about the cause before I blame someone...

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Feb 23, 2008, 10:52 AM
I'm not trying to suggest anything, I don't know you personally...But I don't think that your boby is not developed enough to carry a baby...exspecially if you are active in sports, rough housing, etc. Anything can set it off...

Hope this helps..What does your parents think?
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Feb 23, 2008, 11:12 AM
Hi -

I'm very sorry about your miscarriage.

Miscarriages can be caused by many things but it's worth keeping in mind that its not rare to have a miscarriage that early in pregnancy where no reason is determined. You don't necessarily need to find anyone to blame and I don't see that blaming anyone is guaranteed to help you. Scar tissue from your previous surgery could interfere with your pregnancy. If your surgeon told you that you are capable of having children in the future, this is not a guarantee every future pregnancy will reach term (the time of birth).

Although your body can take quite a lot even when pregnant (in terms of physical exercise), it is best to be careful about your child and try to avoid physical fights at all costs - it is never acceptable for you to be intentionally hurt by those that care for you.

Your question makes me worry about you. If you are being intentionally hurt or taken advantage of by people (or even those you don't) you know, you should find someone you can trust to confide in, say your doctor or teacher who will be able to help you.
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Feb 23, 2008, 11:28 AM
Well if you are small and/or 14 years old your body may not be able to carry yet. I had a miscarriage at 16 years old due to my body not being fully developed. I wouldn't let people hit you either pergnate or not. Sounds like you are not choosing the best life style either. If your brother, family, and friends are hitting you you got a PROBLEM. Don't know what caused the misscarige but be happy you are only a kid yourself. I really do recommend you getting on birth control for kids are so expensive you wouldn't even know. How would you pay for all that anyways? Get your education you can meet lots of ups later on....
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Feb 23, 2008, 11:36 AM
I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage! I'm not a pregnancy expert or doctor, so I can't really give you and information about why, but I'm sorry you are going through this! Perhaps at 14 your body is just not able to handle it. I know a girl who miscarried at your age, but later had 3 healthy kids in her twenties, so don't lose hope of having a child someday. Take good care of yourself and someday when you are ready for a child, see a doctor who has lots of experience with high risk pregnancies. For right now, some counseling might help you deal with the miscarriage. Perhaps your doctor or parents, or a teacher can help you find someone good to talk to.

Who was the family member who threw you into a desk? Was it an adult? You should really tell someone if people are hurting you in any way because there is lots of help out there if you need it! So if you're being abused or anything, please tell someone!
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Feb 25, 2008, 12:18 PM
Why on EARTH would you want to have a baby @ 14! Your going to b barely 24-25 and your baby will b 10....ull be payin For rur child's college before your 30..I mean...yikes. And especially if your not acting mature about any of this. Its not your time. You can't let people stand on you or let your friends punch you...you are carrying a human life when you are pregnant. If you let this stuff happen to you. Don't you think its kind of your fault? I'm not trying to be mean but....honestly..my fianc? Sister just turned 16 and she's pregnant...she doesn't have a job, her GRANDMOTHER supports her...her grandmother bought all her baby stuff. You should know deep down inside if your going to be there or not for the child. I mean your not really even in high school yet....you'll never party, you'll never get that girls night out. You won't have any enjoyment...I'm sorry, but...its the truth
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Feb 25, 2008, 12:23 PM


Where are your parents? Who is getting you pregnant? What the hell are you doing getting pregnant at 14? I'm sorry, but this burns me. How do you expect to support a kid? You will be a burden on society. And what type of life do you expect a kid to have when its mother is only a child herself?

Be thankful you miscarried and learn about contraception, or better yet, abstinance.
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