I'm a mother of 2 small kids, me and my feince have been trying to have a third child. On March 17 at about 2:00AM I had sex with another man. He pulled out, and I was very worried about that because I know that just doesnt work. I took a preg. test on March18th was negitive, another on the 21st- positive and another on the 25th- positive. Everything I've read has told me that you cant tell untill 12- 15 days after sex if you are pregnant. Would I be safe to say that the chances of me being pregnant by this other guy are slim to none, and that my fience and I concieved a month earlier? Before March 16th- it was about 3 weeks when we last had sex. I've been feeling terrible, and very tired, and my breasts are tender. but I'm curious as to why the first test came negitive if that was the case. It has been only 10 days since my mistake and am hoping and praying that we concieved earlier. Can you tell me which senario is more likely?

PinkSlippers

Why don't you use one of those ovulation predictors that are all over the internet?
Type in the date of your last period- then see which days you were most likely to get pregnant and who you were sleeping with at the time.
I do agree though that it would be wrong of you not to tell your fiance.
He deserves to know. Of course people make mistakes... all people. But you should be fair here. For medical information, your child should know who his/her father is, God forbid anything should ever happen.

tccat46

Hi, im lead to believe that some tests can tell quite quickly if your pregnant or not, the first test may have come back as negative due to a lack of HCG levels?
Sometimes people get one or more negative tests before a positive.
If this is eating you up so much you may be better being honest with your fiance and finding out after the birth via DNA testing who the natural father is. I hope for your sake that its your fiance's baby hun. Personally id have to be honest i couldnt live for the rest of my life wondering who fathered my child.
Sorry if this hasnt helped much
Take care xxx

lfsxthnudie

First the answer to your question- count 14 days from your last period, and that is the time you should have been ovulating/ most likely to get pregnant.

Now my rant- why are you trying to get pregnant if you're not married yet, for one, and why are you even THINKING of having more children and getting married if you're sleeping around? My God woman, close your legs and get some morals before you bring more kids into your obviously misguided world.

calee88

I really do wish you the best of luck. No cheating is right. I understand you feel really bad for it. And thats good that you feel bad because that means that you will never do something like that again. But also and Im not being mean, If your soon to be husband loved you at all he would stay with you no matter what happened. I dont think you have anything to be worried about with him not being the father. But I do think you need to tell him because he can go on the internet and read this stuff that you have put on here. But I do really wish you the best of luck and I dont want you to get mad for me writing this eather. But if he knows your email address all he has to do is go to google and put in you email name and I will pull up all the web sites and post that you have been to. For example: Go to google and put (peacegirl88) then hit search and It will pull up everywhere I have put a post and everything. So thats something to think about........ GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS YOU