I just turned 17, my girlfriend who is 16 is about a month pregnant already making plans. I am the father of the child and I live hundreds and hundreds of miles away from my girlfriend. Her mother and father are supporting her. I want to be a full part of the childs life and take care of my girlfriend, support her all the way. I live with my father and he doesnt want me being apart of the childs life he thinks its not my responsible. He doesnt want me anywhere near my girlfriend and my child to give support. I disagree. do i have a right to be there for my girlfriend and child i dont want her to do this alone. what can i do, her parents want me to help, i fully want responsible of what i did and i want to help, can my father force me into not being apart of the childs life We both live within the United States

Krs

Depending where you come from..
All countries have different laws about this.

J_9

Not only do you have rights Cherry, this is your responsibility!!!!

You do not want this little one growing up not knowing who its daddy is or wondering if it daddy ever loved him/her. Or wondering if he/she looks anything like daddy.

It is also very important that you help the mother monitarily as children are very expensive.

You were responsible enough to have unprotected sex, so you must stand up, be a man, and be responsible enough to raise the child.

I am so happy you are mature enough to understand this and I am sorry your father is not.

You just have to follow your heart and take responsibility for this little life that you helped create.

Good luck to you and keep us posted, we are always here to help.

cheechthecheechy

well i think the thing u should find out is when you legally become an adult and can be on your own (as in living). you can go wherever you want, whethers its to play footy, or go see ur gf and ur child, as long as youre allowed to. wat i mean by allowed to, is that if ur father still controls u, and ur not an adult, that he lets you.

btw i dont want to sound as tho its a big falling apart between you and your father.

i really hope that your father will understand and see ur side of the story and let you visit/support ur child!

plus congratulations! =D

Krs

Yes J_9... again an awesome post!

Seems like this kid is more mature than his own father!!

luvee

You are truly responsible with that act...However, there are other matters that you should think about... like... are you stable enough? Are you emotionally, financially and spirituality ready for this? It's not a matter of accepting the responsibility...but rather you should be totally ready for it. Besides, you're only 17... I am not underestimating you but you should not only be ready but armed.
I do salute you for being mature enough in dealing with this matter. YOu can talk to your father and also to your girlfriend of what set up to do as of this moment. It's not bad sacrificing a little bit more...coz who knows you're father thinks you aint prepared yet thats why he's telling you that but its always your decision and prove it to your father. Are you still in school? If yes, better finish your school first, you can work part time and send your child financial aid... or visit your child and your gf... just prove to your father that you know what you are doing and you know what you are into ... action always speaks louder than words

fed up

I'm not sure if your father can block your intentions. It's good that her parents want you to help with the birth and the financial support. It is your responsability. You both made this baby and it will take 2 people to raise the child. It's too bad that your father has such a dim view on responsability. Follow your heart and do the right thing. Good luck and God bless.

CaptainForest

Good for you!

Your father can’t stop you from participating in your child’s life.

And within 1 year, you can just move out there as well…

Myth

Make sure that you talk to your gf belly... The baby can and will be able to hear you soon and will recognize your voice if you do... Mine move when they hear their daddy.

J_9

Cherry, I just want to add: It depends on what state you live in. In many U.S. states once you are pregnant, or got your g/f pregnant, you are officially emancipated.

This means you are old enough to act like an adult and make a baby, you are now old enough to be an adult.

This happened to my friend and her son found out he was emancipated at 15, he is now 19. He was 15 when his g/f got pregnant, and he had to act like the adult and take care of the g/f and the baby.