need some encouragement!

trying4babykirk · May 3, 2008, 01:23 PM

Hi, me and my husband have been TTC for about 10 months now, we did the whole "dont try and it will happen" thing..well that didnt work!!

I have taken so many pregnancy test, we could have adopted a child with the money I have spent. (I dont beleive there is ANYTHING wrong with adopting) Everytime, negative after negative after negative. It just really got me down, so this last one that I bought I debated buying/taking it for awhile, because it always just bums me out when its negative!

Ok now for the delimma I am 3-4 days late and I really dont want to go out and buy/take a hpt because I am scared it will be negative. I have been 1-2 days late before and still negative, but never this long. I dont have any prego symptoms. UUUggghhhh..this is so frustratiing, and I really didnt even want to think about getting pregnant because I have been trying "dont get your hopes up" thing. Now I cant stop thinking about it!

Anyone been here before? I need some encouragement or help! Thanks in advance!

trying4babykirk · May 6, 2008, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by amIwrong

Whatever is the best course for you, best wishes.

I appreciate your understanding!

amIwrong · May 8, 2008, 03:13 AM

I saw about the negative post after, keep your fingers crossed and look forward to the unknown. It's like Christmas, it'll be a surprise.

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Originally Posted by amIwrong

Just wait, I mean, are you in a hurry to hear bad news? You will know sooner then later. Stats say 12 months is normal, but I know lots, if not most women who took on average 2 years and most times more. I think after so many "after school specials" we are somewhat conditioned to be fearful of getting pregnant to a point where we think it happens sooooooo easy. You are fine, I know it's hard not to focus on, but in a way you have no chioce. You don't want to take on the stress of being in such a rush that you cause yourself a debt by way of IVF or any such thing if it could be avoided due to not taking it easy once we're ready. If anything then maybe talk to a repo endo about fetility drugs such as clomid, and take it slow, stress free. It sounds like simple advice, but really, your not doing yourself any service by getting upset. If you do a repo endo at some point then make sure to use your flexible spending account if you have one, it will pay off.

dollface_93 · May 10, 2008, 12:57 PM

Have you got your AF yet? I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 6.5 weeks, I kept taking test and they were all BFN, so I just quit taking them, then I was eating out with my man, and told him how crazy it was that I was eating onions and how bad my chichis hurt. So I went and took a test BFP, 2 of them.. so don't give up yet... Patience sweet heart and I will keep you in my prayers.

trying4babykirk · May 12, 2008, 05:02 AM

UPDATE:I got AF on the 7th, Wednesday (5 days late) and it only lasted until the 9th, Friday, so that is very unusual, and I hope it doesnt mess with my cycle, but anyways, we will be trying again this month. I will keep everyone posted

Keep the great advice coming!

aneangel22 · May 14, 2008, 09:50 AM

Don't get discouraged! I know how you feel. My husband and I have now been together for almost 6 years and have never used protection of any sort. I was told that I could never have children and about 3 years into our relationship I finally made peace with that. About 6 months after that I found out I was indeed pregnant. It was almost as if god were saying "since you took the news so well i'll go ahead and let ya have one". At first I was seriously depressed. My husband and I had talked about all the things we could do since we didn't have a baby and right when I really start liking the idea BOOM. It didn't take me long to get so excited I couldn't sleep. So it took us over 3 years and now we've been trying ever since our daughter was born. She'll be 2 in august. Hang in there!! and don't give up

ChihuahuaMomma · May 14, 2008, 10:12 AM

Good luck girl. Thinking of you. Tons of love and good wishes!



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