Recently I have been appalled at what people do and do not know about sex, about birth control, about pregnancy.

One of our fine members here, Altenweg (Alty for short), gave me an idea to start a thread about sex ed. As a labor and delivery nurse, I thought it might be a good idea to take her advice to heart and help all people who really are not sure how this all works.

Please go ahead and ask away!!!

Wondergirl

What's the best birth control?

J_9

You know the answer to this WG. Abstinence. There is no form of birth control that is 100% effective. Women have gotten pregnant on every form of birth control out there.

Altenweg

That's the sad thing. Birth control pills give a false sense of security, 98.7% effective, well, that's not 100%.

I have a friend who has endomitriosis, one ovary, polysystic ovarian disease and many other health problems. She was told she'd never have children but her and her boyfriend tried anyway, they had two, the doctor said they were lucky.

Well, her boyfriend (soon to be hubby) was due to go in for a vasectomy, they decided two was enough, but until the procedure, she went on the pill and they used condoms. Guess what, she's now pregnant with her third, due in January.

In other words, if you're relying on birth control, you're putting your faith in something that isn't always effective, it's still very possible to get pregnant.

Abstinence is the only thing that works 100%, I doubt that they'll ever come up with a fool proof pill or other form of contraceptive, and even if they do, there's still human error.

Bottom line, don't want a baby, don't have sex. Also, STD's are always a possibility, even when you use a condom, condoms aren't anywhere near 100% effective and the chance of human error is even higher. Most people don't use condoms correctly, even if they did there's still a chance of failure.

spyderglass

Ok this is cool, I have 2 questions
1. Are there certain sexual positions that can help to conceive?
2. Does acheiving orgasm during sex help you conceive?
I know the answer to one of them...

J_9

1. No, not really. There are millions of sperm in ejaculate and it only takes one to reach the egg.

2. Yes. The orgasm helps to propel the sperm up past the cervix and into the uterus.

spyderglass

Thanks J9

snowalps

great job alty and j_9..!

i really dont understand how can there be sex without orgasm! its just impossible for me to believe! but i know it exists for a fact, and i simply dont know how:-)

aaj2008

This quote struck me as odd as I was reading....it actually takes millions of sperm to penetrate the outer layer of an egg...

spyderglass

But only one sperm fertilizes the egg-

aaj2008

yes but for that one sperm to fertilize the egg there has to be a couple million to get there and make the hole for that one sperm...thats why people have to "try" to get pregnant...