About 4 months ago I meet a man that was still married but separated from his wife. He fell for me fast. I became pregnant about 2 months into us dating and this past christmas he ended it with me and went back to his wife knowing that I was pregnant. What do you think I should do?

The wife should know. Also he should take responsibility for this child.

Joe

The wife does know and they separated because she was a stripper and came back with herpes they were only married for a month and now he left for the army . And why he would want to go back to someone with herpes I don't know.

The whole time we were together I was always with him and the wife moved to st. louis he always told his mom how much he loved me and that I was different and made a close relationship with my family. He wrote me poems and when he first found out I was pregnant was excited about picking out names. For christmas she came back into town and went to his house because they have a daughter together. That's when he decided to break up with me and go back to her on christmas day. Do you think I was just used? Or he was just confused?

So the question is what do you have?

It does not matter whether he is confused or not. You are pregnant. He keeps going back and forth. He is using both of you.

Joe

So now do you have herpes? Better get yourself checked out, especially since you are pregnant. Another thing is why would you want this guy if he keeps going around with different people. Wake up.

Joe

I am a product a married man and teenage mother and this was back in the days of Elvis before he went to war. My father divorced his wife whom had just given birth to his son for my mother.

The years of Sheol I called my parents relationship. He was abusive and neglectful especially towards my mother and my brothers. My father made no effort to care for his children educationally or financially but this young mother (mine) loved him because she felt she had to because she had his child.

He now has over 11 children and only two he had paid child support for.
Not all 11 of these children are product of my parents union. Papa was a rolling stone. He blames me for ruining his life. I say keep it in the pants and no problems.

Do not force this man into your life nor your child's. Just back up and go for child support. Please for God's sake keep yourself happy. The ending to my story is not a sweet one but one I learned from. I have deceit man for my children and a righteous man towards me. Believe this fact Mr. Right is out there... it just not right with this man.

Oh by the way I will always love my mama for her sacrifices are very much appreciated. For she was there when no else cared. She loved me and was not disappointed that I came into this world. So, will your baby feel the same for as long as you are with the baby.

Do you really care what he thinks? ( the baby's father)

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You need to find a new man, this guy obviously doesn't know what he wants in life. Just be sure to file for child support. You say he just got into the military.. well the military will help him pay for his children... Its not going to be much to start with, but it should help you out a little bit.

If this guy already has 2 children and a wife he has gone back and forth to I would not suggest you get any hopes up for him. He may have seemed great before, and so sweet and etc, but it sounds like he needs some growing up to do. To answer your question more directly.. I think he was confused and I don't think he used you on purpose.

Maybe the military will help him grow up. Either way your best bet is to move on, give your child the best mother he/she can have, and keep your hopes up for a greater father to come along...

In fact now that I think about it... When my mom was pregnant with me she got left by her BF for another girl. She moved on and found a great guy (in the military) who took me in as his own daughter, and my older brother as his own too... it happens all the time!

Best Wishes

I think that your main concern right now should be your baby. Married men always claim that they love you with all of their heart and 'if only' they would be all yours. I am 26 years old and pregnant for my married boyfriend and the first thing he did was to tell me to get rid of it. Do what I do now, think about your bundle of joy that will very soon be here. Forget him. If he wants to acknowledge your child well so be it.