my boyfriend and i have been trying to have a baby, we really want it regardless of what our peers think, (being at a difficult age that is). for the last month, we've been having unprotected sex. About a week and a half later, i went to the bathroom and noticed some light blood when i wiped. there wasnt anything in my underwear, just when i wiped. Its a couple of days before my next period, that is if its on time, cause im kind of irregular. Ive been having cramps like im getting ready to start my period, but i also know this could be a pregnancy sign as well. Not to mention, the cramps have been pretty bad, but i still havnt gotten any blood, the cramps started about a week ago. So is this my period, am i pregnant, or is it something else?

Becca1025

I really think you should take into consideration about having one of your friends let the two of you babysit their baby for atleast three days. Have them only bring the baby (car seat and craddle or something for the baby to sleep in of course), and you guys buy the rest of the stuff. Buy the clothing, the diapers, the wipes, the ointment, the food, the bottles, the formula, the toys, soap for baths, blankets, etc etc.... See how much money you have to spend on those days alone then multiply it by 18 years. take the baby everywhere you go (store, errands etc) Go to work like normal, find a babysitter for the baby (of course one that the parents approve of first) go home, play with the baby, feed baby, give baby a bath, diaper change, try to put baby to sleep, do all this while trying to cook and clean, then once baby falls asleep, you go to sleep, then every hour or couple of hours you'll both be woken up to feed/change baby. Then, uh oh, you run out of diapers at 4 in the morning. Gotta go to the store. Then you go home, change baby, baby wont go to sleep, then you realize the baby only will fall asleep in the car. Gotta get baby in the car seat and drive around a couple of blocks. You get home and the baby is asleep, you get out of the car and baby wakes up. Gotta get back in the car. Then it's 6 in the morning, only a few more hours till work. You've only gotten four hours of sleep.... it's gonna be like that every night for a long time.


We have done that a few times with my cousins baby as soon as we found out we are expecting. As excited as we both are about bringing our bundle of joy into this world, we also know it's not easy at all. It will be alittle bit harder then if it were your own baby, because my cousins baby was so used to her mom and dad and not used to strange people. She had to get used to us and our place and that was hard. It took her a long time. And guess what! She is one of those babies who fall asleep in the car. It's fun watching the baby and playing with the baby feeding the baby, saying "oh how cute," but that only lasts about an hour then you start getting tired and frustrated. After our first weeked of watching my cousins baby I was exhausted. SUnday morning my cousin came knocking on the door, I had her baby ready to go. I said "here take her I need to sleep." But when our baby is here we wont be able to just say "k it was fun here's your baby back." Seriously try it, you may change your mind and decide to wait for awhile.

Kitschxbang

I think that while everyone's opinion is valid, I would like to say that I support cb2008, if you truly believe that you and your partner are in this for life and that you can support a child, then all you can do is make sure you always keep the kid safe and healthy etc The people who have answered this question are only trying to help out, but only you know yourself and your partner and your coping ability to be a parent. I know a girl who was 16 when she got pregnant and she is a fantastic mom, her partner is in the same sort of job as yours and they are doing great financially and emotionally and are living a great life. I hope that this will be true for you guys, too
I wish you all the best with having a baby!

Kitschxbang

Becca1025

So did you take a pregnancy test yet???

Kitschxbang

J_9: I have recently got married, but before that I knew I was with my partner for life. I can see your point, but in this day and age I don't think marriage is a neccessity. More and more couples are staying together without ever getting married. Marriage may come, in time, but I know that I personally wanted to be married but didn't want the wedding: too much stress, too much money... it may not be something they want right now, or other reasons?

margarita_momma

J_9 agrees: But if they are in it for life, why wouldn't they be married?


I have to agree with Kitsch. A lot of people aren't getting married now a days. Yeah getting married helps in the fact that your husband or wife can't just run off without going through a divorce but a lot of the moral and religious reasons for getting married are not that important anymore. I got married right out of high school (because I was one of the smart ones . I wouldn't recommend that by the way) and got pregnant when I was 19. My ex husband and I went through a nasty divorce and custody battle this year. We are now trying to work things out and have decided to not EVER get married again. I am not a religious person and the only reason I got married the first time is because my ex wanted too and because I was told that is what you are supposed to do when you love someone. Being married has nothing to do with being happy with someone. We are much happier now than when we were married.