I will be 19 years old in 3 weeks and I've been obsessed with getting pregnant. I've been wanting a baby since I was 16. Sometimes I look at my stomach and pretend I'm pregnant. I put myself in some fantasy world. I'm just wondering if this has happened to any other person and how I can deal with this. I don't want to go out with someone just to get pregnant. I would never trick someone into getting pregnant. I know I'm still young and I should just wait till it comes along and I am. I just want advice on how I can deal with it until the right time comes for me.

KMSRyana

And if you can find a way to watch some movies of a C-section or view some deliveries it might calm you "urges" for a little while.

buggage

you siad you are going to college soon. perhaps you could put this passion towards a degree as a ob/gyn. Then you can help women through their pregnancies and deliver babys all the time. the world is always in need of another good ob/gyn that really loves their work

mocha81

I think the reason I really want a baby more then ever right now is because I'm having problems with my period where I didn't have it for over 5 months so I went to see the doctor and gyno and blood tests and all this stuff and went on birth control. I guess I'm just so afraid of not being able to get pregnant. I have my periods now with the pill but it's not how it used to be. and because I don't have a family doctor I don't get any follow ups.

missingmotherhood

I am pretty much in the same shoes as you are instead i am where you what to be. I am 21 and i will be 22 in may/07. I have been pregnant wice before the first time i got an abortion because i was to young and i regret it to this day and the second time i had a stillbirth and i have been trying every since. I think that i want it so bad its not going to happen. just be patient. I think that i have finally made it to motherhood. I am 3 days late and most of the symptoms. So like someone said above volunteer your time. occupy your time basicly. Dont just sit at home. When the time is right then it will happen. But i am a perfect example of it is better said then done.

Good luck

citygirl00

I'm a nursery assistant and am around children and babies all the time; this doesn't stop broodiness at all. I know I’m not ready to have a child yet and that’s why I find my emotions so difficult to deal with. Believe me you can't have any idea what it's like to be this broody or other wise you wouldn't suggest such things. I’ve tried the whole lot I’ve even tried putting all my focus on finding my self a great new job and find my self a place but it doesn't stop the feelings. You could tell me all the horror stories you like about having children and how stressful and hard it is but it really doesn't help these feelings, I’ve recently considered going to a councillor to see if they can help but I’m sure their going to tell me everything I’ve tried before. I'm not going to go off and get myself pregnant, I’m not ready and it wouldn't be fair on the child. Can anybody tell me and mocha81 something helpful and not give us lectures because they are no help.

mocha81

exactly! we get each other. I always thought of being a nurse for babies but then seeing other people have babies, every day of my life and knowing it's not me. That will hurt me a lot.

J_9

Actually, yes I can. I was not a nursery assistant at 22 years of age, I was a licensed/certified and bonded day care teacher of 20 2 year olds. This is when I became pregnant with my first child. So, please don't tell me that I don't have any idea because I am sure I have much more experience under my belt than you do! This was a suggestion that works for many people, not all.



Difficulty with emotions is normal at any stage in life. Here let me tell you. I am 42, I have had 4 children. I have had cancer, bilateral mastectomy and chemotherapy. I still would LOVE to have more children. But it is dangerous to me, and dangerous to any child I might carry. So, I understand how hard emotions are to deal with.


Yes, I have an idea, read the answer above.


Yes, you are right. Unless you have lived it personally, you can't understand, especially since you already seem to know it all.


You are a VERY smart woman to understand that. Many young women believe they are bulletproof. At least you understand the consequences.

Now, please do not lecture me on what I do and do not understand. I have many more years on you and many more life experiences. You have no idea whether I have ever felt this way or not.

Oh, yeah, one other thing. How do you know I don't feel that way right now? Huh? How? You don't, so don't lecture me. I DO feel the same way as these other girls. I would LOVE to have more children. I would love to have 6 or 8, but I CAN'T. It is no longer possible for me because of my cancer and chemo condition. Don't you think that is more painful than knowing one day I could have one but I am not "ready" now. Yes, it is much more painful knowing every day that I will NEVER have another child to hold and cuddle and love and raise.

So, since I CAN'T have children, I spend my time volunteering at local hospitals in the nurseries of premature babies who need a little extra love and affection. At least that helps me through my pain for a short while.

J_9

See, Mocha, you will be able to have one someday. I CAN'T have any anymore. So this is how I handle the pain of knowing I will never have another one. I volunteer. It takes the pain away for a little bit anyway.

citygirl00

J_9 : I am sorry about your situation, it must be hard, you must be really proud of your children. But your lucky though you have got a child, 4 in fact, many of my family can't have children and that worries me too (it maybe hereditary). I just know that in my experience being around children makes no difference and if I was to find out that like many of my family I couldn't have children I would find it very painful looking after children and knowing I would never have my own.

citygirl00

It does hurt. Recently one of my friends have fallen pregnant, I am delighted for her but also a little jealous. Don't get me wrong I’m not ready for a child but the feelings still stand. I wish there was a cure it a bottle!