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My husband & I are ttc & have been trying for several months. I recently discovered that his once a day drug use could be the cause of why I have not conceived yet. (I've always gotten pregnant without even trying- our the first pregnancy resulted in a mc.) He has stopped using marijuana two weeks ago but that has caused his blood pressure to rise to an unhealthy rate (he gets stressed out & anxiety when he doesn't smoke.) His high blood pressure is now also causing erectile dysfunction.
What advice do you have for effective ways to conceive with a the odds stacked against you? What about the rumors that having sex more than every 12 hours, when ovulating, will hurt a fertility problematic man's chance of having good sperm to plant?
I need some advice. I am worried that my husband may not want to try again next month without smoking. I'm also afraid that our daughter may grow up as an only child if I don't try to do this the right way.
marijuana smoke in the house is deadly to your existing child-it probably is damaging YOUR ability to conceive rather than his sperm count/motility unless he is a heavy user (although-if the sperm are already no good, then he will be damaging whats left)
I disagree with his use and your inhalation of secondary smoke-if that is happening-he needs to get out of the house when you/your daughter is there.
frankly anything that you put into your body that alters its phisiology will affect your body/fertility. there will be NO study that will argue this.
Actually he does not smoke it. There is no second hand smoke. I would never expose our daughter to it directly. I personally do not care for it & my husband makes it a point to use it in other ways & when we are not home. I guess I should have clarified that. He boils it once a month & makes butter that is used exclusively in food that only he consumes. The food is kept in a private fridge with a lock on it. I know that it sounds like we are terrible parents, but honestly we are very much the average couple. We both have well respected jobs & are considered to be upstanding members of society. We dedicate our time to helping others & are just trying to get by like everyone else. We love our daughter very much & would never intentionally put her in a hazardas environment. I look at my husband using as another form of medication. We have consulted a psychiatrist for his anxiety & a physician about his ulcer/ bp- we were open with them & honest. Both of them felt that marijuana would be used medically, quite often, if it weren't illegal. Although they wouldn't go on the record to say go get some- They both said, if you find it to be a benefit, there isn't a medical reason why you should refrain.
I understand everyones concern. I don't expect you to understand my position. I can only say that this is a very small part of our life. We are not ashamed of it. I am just a wife & a mother who would love nothing more than to have another child.
Actually he does not smoke it. There is no second hand smoke. I would never expose our daughter to it directly. I personally do not care for it & my husband makes it a point to use it in other ways & when we are not home. I guess I should have clarified that. He boils it once a month & makes butter that is used exclusively in food that only he consumes. The food is kept in a private fridge with a lock on it. I know that it sounds like we are terrible parents, but honestly we are very much the average couple. We both have well respected jobs & are considered to be upstanding members of society. We dedicate our time to helping others & are just trying to get by like everyone else. We love our daughter very much & would never intentionally put her in a hazardas environment. I look at my husband using as another form of medication. We have consulted a psychiatrist for his anxiety & a physician about his ulcer/ bp- we were open with them & honest. Both of them felt that marijuana would be used medically, quite often, if it weren't illegal. Although they wouldn't go on the record to say go get some- They both said, if you find it to be a benefit, there isn't a medical reason why you should refrain.
I understand everyones concern. I don't expect you to understand my position. I can only say that this is our life. We are not ashamed of it. I do not feel like a criminal, even though I know technically we are. I am just a wife & a mother who would love nothing more than to have another child.
Sounds like you are a good person, I don't see a problem with it, and I sure as heck do not see how you need to explain or feel guilty for anything. It is your life, you seem to have things together, I think thats GREAT! I believe there are people who are responsible enough to smoke and there are those that only want to smoke and do nothing types. I have known them all! I was pregnant 14 years ago with my first son, did not know I was preggo till 4 months into it. Before he was born I was a pot smoker, my husband was a pot smoker. I was worried because others had told me I had harmed my baby, of course when I saw my doctor I was totally honest with her, she told me too (OFF THE RECORD) that she finds it to be ok every now and then. I was very surprised to hear it and very relieved. I quit of course. I didn't enjoy it anymore and found that I didnt feel healthy smoking it. My boy is healthy and vibrant.....
We had 3 more kids after that, he smoked pot forever...and a lot.....I just can't see it being a issue with fertility
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I know this can turn into a big debate. I just am stating my opinion and a few of my own (4 children) studies
Sounds like you are a good person, I don't see a problem with it, and I sure as heck do not see how you need to explain or feel guilty for anything. It is your life, you seem to have things together, I think thats GREAT! I believe there are people who are responsible enough to smoke and there are those that only want to smoke and do nothing types. I have known them all! I was pregnant 14 years ago with my first son, did not know I was preggo till 4 months into it. Before he was born I was a pot smoker, my husband was a pot smoker. I was worried because others had told me I had harmed my baby, of course when I saw my doctor I was totally honest with her, she told me too (OFF THE RECORD) that she finds it to be ok every now and then. I was very surprised to hear it and very relieved. I quit of course. I didn't enjoy it anymore and found that I didnt feel healthy smoking it. My boy is healthy and vibrant.....
We had 3 more kids after that, he smoked pot forever...and a lot.....I just can't see it being a issue with fertility
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I know this can turn into a big debate. I just am stating my opinion and a few of my own (4 children) studies
Thanks. I greatly appreciated your input! I have a little more hope now : )
Secondary smoke from cigarettes and marijuana smoke IS DEADLY WHEN YOU GET CANCER FROM IT. Also the risk of miscarriage increases way above that that is considered normal-if the mother smokes (actively or passively).
Children who have to inhale smoke all their childhood run the risk of asthma, bronchitis, empheseyma and CANCER these are proven facts ordinaryguy.
So please, before commenting-get your facts right.
P.S. when I see your medical proof to say that it is totally safe for a child to inhale, I will change my mind-but I doubt that is going to happen.
excon: I understand your approach-I'm purely talking about the health of children.
If second hand pot smoke killed people, then MY approach would be all wet. the fact is, second hand CIGARETTE smoke kills. Second hand marijuana smoke doesn't.
Pot NEVER killed ANYBODY - directly or indirectly.
Secondary smoke from cigarettes and marijuana smoke IS DEADLY WHEN YOU GET CANCER FROM IT. Also the risk of miscarriage increases way above that that is considered normal-if the mother smokes (actively or passively).
Tobacco smoke, yes. Marijuana, no.
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So please, before commenting-get your facts right.
If you have documentation that marijuana smoke kills, please post it.
I work in a cancer clinic and I study the subject extensively. If marijuana has any bearing on lung cancer, etc., I've never heard it.
Although your statement doesn't necessarily apply to my situation, I greatly appreciate you posting factual information based on your extensive background. I've noticed that lot of people post things that don't have much, if any, substance to them. I know it's a open bulletin for opinions & what not, but some people could actually be harming those seeking help if they are giving out false info. It's just nice to see professionals posting help/ advice/ facts- that's all.
Okay, my two cents. Honey, my husband smoked pot when we were trying to conceive, both times, I have two beautiful children.
If your husband is reaping medical benefits from using marijuana, then that is what he should do. Take a look at where you are now. He stopped using and now he's having problems with erectile dysfunction, high BP etc. You stated that he has a once a day habit, well I don't even think you can call it a habit, it helps him with his medical problems, which marijuana has been proven to do.
I do have a few questions, and if they've already been posted somewhere else, sorry. How long have you been trying? Have you tried using an ovulation kit, tracking your cycle to try and find out when you are ovulating? Have you ever used any type of birth control, if so, what kind?
I have to agree with excon on the pot issue, I've never seen an accurate study where pot smoking is concerned. Cigarettes can cause infertility, and second hand smoke from cigs is dangerous, alcohol can cause problems when trying to conceive, so can tight underwear etc. etc. marijuana, well not that anyone has proven.
People, you have to remember, the internet is not always reliable when looking for information, otherwise we wouldn't have so many people coming here to ask questions.
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