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Location: Albuquerque, New Mexico (Yes thats in the United States)
Posts: 341
This just shocked the heck out of me!
My family and I were at Olive Garden last week and I was carrying my two month old in his fairly heavy carseat carrier thing. The wait was going to be 40 minutes and as always the place was packed. There was nowhere to sit. There were a bunch of old people standing and not one person was giving up their seat to any women with a baby or any old people. So we're standing there for about 10 minutes and this guy gets up off his chair and carries it to where we were standing and he puts my baby's carrier on it for me and said "you need this more then I do." I was just so shocked! The entire time I was pregnant not one person would ever give their seat up for me. It pisses me off especially when I was in the third trimester and was huge, we would be in a lobby or waiting area that was full and no one would give their seat up for a pregnant women! I used to stand in the middle of the room where all these parents would not make their children get up from their seat to give up for an old person or a pregnant women. I used to say very loudly "What? Nobody has manners anymore to give up their seat for a pregnant woman?!?!" and those people would just laugh or act like the didnt hear me. Maybe my parents brought me up old fashioned, but I have always given up my seat for someone with a baby, an elderly person, or a pregnant women. But yet, nobody ever did that for me, so imagine my shock when someone did! I was so glad atleast one person had the decency! Just thought I'd share.
Yes, I'd say you were brought up old fashioned. That's not to suggest that that's not a good thing but you pregnant women, women in general, elderly, etc. have all been victimized by this "politically correct" mentality that we've had shoved down our throats. Everybody and everything has to be equal. Something like giving up one's seat to a woman, even a pregnant one or an old or disabled person is unheard of and considered unfair. As it is, I think that businesses ought to run their establishments a little more efficiently so that nobody has to stand and wait for 40 minutes,
Well, it's nice of that guy at Olive Garden to offer his chair to you! I agree that people should be more considerate of others. I work in retail, and yesterday, a man on crutches came in, and when he left, although the store was full of customers, no one offered to open the door for him when he had trouble. The door is kind of hard to push open anyway, let alone with crutches and shopping bags. I ran over and held it open for him and it only took about 10 seconds. I was shocked when another customer who was waiting yelled at me and told me I was rude for not ringing him up first. He only waited for 10 seconds literally! I told him I just wanted to help the poor man and he said "Who cares?" What really got me was that there were at least 10 people right by the door and no one would help.
I remember a reporter going on the Tube a few years back in London and was heavily pregnant and saying how the train was packed and nobody would give up there seat.
I also remember going on public transport when my yougest was about 3 months old and being stood up and thrown all over holding him in one arm and a pram in the other as i got off the the bus i turned around and said to everyone thank you.
People should not have to give up there eats for somebody else but it is common curtisy i always give up mine.
But this day and age people are more intrested in themselves than others
Old fashion or not! Thats just plain rude to not to be willing to help a women and her child, pregnant woman or elderly. And I think that s_cianci is just having a bad day. I hope you experience this courtsey again! Have a nice day!
I agree that the world is full is selfish people. Even living in the south where people are supposedly kinder, when I was pregnant I was often times the one giving up my seat for someone older or disabled, and even other pregnant women. It gripes me when I'm in a store with my son in his stroller, and so many other women who obviously know how inconsiderate other people are now days, are just as rude if not moreso than everyone else! I can't tell you how many times my son's stroller has almost been run into by a careless mother, or how many times someone will just stride right into your way and stand there as if you don't even exist. I have to say that when I go out now days I start out as my typical, generous self, and by the end of my trip I become brutal and ruthless to those with no manners. My husband often calls the trip short because I become so aggrevated by the fact that no one gives a thought to anyone other than themself. It is almost a garuntee that I will give a sarcastic "Thank you, or Excuse me!" along with a very nasty look when I go out of the house. Maybe that is why I stay home all the time! We as parents need to do a better job teaching our children how to have good manners and respect, rather than teaching them that the world revolves around them.
Funny, I was in a restaurant with my Mother on Saturday and she said the same thing... we really have lost a lot of courtesy. Sad commentary on culture.
Becca1025 disagrees: Are you serious? giving up your seat for a pregnant women, elderly people, disabled people is considered unfair? It has nothing to do with being politically correct, but having common deceny.
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Becca1025 disagrees: Are you serious? giving up your seat for a pregnant women, elderly people, disabled people is considered unfair? It has nothing to do with being politically correct, but having common deceny.
There are those who would consider it so, as Scott pointed out in his above post. Now I'm not saying that I personally agree with that or that that's how it ought to be, I was just merely trying to shed some light on why things had gotten to the point you described in your initial post.
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