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This morning ive not stopped crying i just dont know what to do. When i think ive made my mind up something else comes and slaps me in my face. For those who dont know im 19 and 7 weeks and 3 days pregnant. My family are highly against it. Calling me up telling me they will pay for a private termination. Being isolated from the rest of the family being told i am completely ruining my life by having this baby. My brother got me a Job in November last year he is one of the managers and is saying to me how his sent the last 20 years building up his caeere for me NOT to spoil it. How it makes him look bad within th company and how i may not have a job at the end of it. They have all told me how i the best thing for me to do is to have an abortion. That really isnt something i want to do but the harder this gets the more n more i think about having an abortion. Thing is i know i will end up resenting everyone in my family if i do that and it will tear me apart. they are really making this hard for me. My boyfriend has been great and he said to me that he wil be there for me no matter what he doesnt want me to have an abortion and he said that i have qualifications and there are plenty more jobs out there if one door closes another will open. I really dont know what to do this is drivin me mad i just fel like running away and never coming back.
Please help me i really dont know what to do i feel so isolated.
i understand what your saying but if you could see the state im in at the moment then maybe you would have a better picture, my family are making this so hard for me its unbelievable. i really dont know what the right decision is.
You know what those tears will fall sweetheart for no bloody reason so get used to that one.
Your brother and the job well screw it he will get over it and move on, right now its all still fresh and new there not seeing you as an adult with child there seeing you as there kid sister or baby girl and i can guarantee they honestly think they know whats best, but your an adult you make the discission and you call the shots.
Stand tall poppet and do whats best for you never mind everyone else it will all work itself out in the end xxxxx
P.s no one said it would be easy xxxxxx
This is your's and your boyfriends baby not theres they should support you in this.
dont let anyone tell you to do anything that you dont want to do in the job respect there are always other jobs making a baby is a hard desicion yes but yours and yours alone.
Let me tell you-I have been in the same situation-and it is a hard road to go alone. It is hard being pregnant anyway, but when your family doesn't support you it makes it harder. Should you decide to stay pregnant, this situation will make you a stronger person and see true colors. Remember your family probably just loves you and they know how difficult it is to raise a child, but you can do it. There is nothing better than the love you feel for your own child. I was also 19 when I got pregnant and now my son is 12 years old. The day he was born Everything changed, after being pregnant and alone all that time, my family was all over that baby and love him to death. I still think about how they treated me when I was pregnant and it just makes me realize the special bond that I have with my son. Your emotions are on a rollercoaster right now so just try to relax and focus on you. You and the baby are the most important right now, don't worry about all the other stuff. You should just tell them if they love you then to let you go and explain to them that you do not need the extra stress right now for the sake of your pregnancy and the future of your baby. NOT trying to scare you, but premature birth can be caused by stress (amongst other things) so your family needs to back off for the health of your pregnancy. If they are not going to support you then they need to be the mature ones and support the baby. Am I repeating myself? Sorry, just passionate.
Let me tell you-I have been in the same situation-and it is a hard road to go alone. It is hard being pregnant anyway, but when your family doesn't support you it makes it harder. Should you decide to stay pregnant, this situation will make you a stronger person and see true colors. Remember your family probably just loves you and they know how difficult it is to raise a child, but you can do it. There is nothing better than the love you feel for your own child. I was also 19 when I got pregnant and now my son is 12 years old. The day he was born Everything changed, after being pregnant and alone all that time, my family was all over that baby and love him to death. I still think about how they treated me when I was pregnant and it just makes me realize the special bond that I have with my son. Your emotions are on a rollercoaster right now so just try to relax and focus on you. You and the baby are the most important right now, don't worry about all the other stuff. You should just tell them if they love you then to let you go and explain to them that you do not need the extra stress right now for the sake of your pregnancy and the future of your baby. NOT trying to scare you, but premature birth can be caused by stress (amongst other things) so your family needs to back off for the health of your pregnancy. If they are not going to support you then they need to be the mature ones and support the baby. Am I repeating myself? Sorry, just passionate.
Thank you it is nice to know that im not the only one that has been or is in this situation thank you for your advice it has really helped.
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