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im pregnant! i took the test this morning and it came out positive. i havent told anyone yet because i dont know who to tell. im so scared, i have no idea what to do. i cant even imagine on whats going to happen. what can i do. i dont even know how to tell someone like what would i say?
Christtiee, honey, did you call the police when your father hit you? He has no right to knock you around, none whatsoever, you have to tell someone about this, like the police, or CPS, anyone, this is not a good situation for you to be in.
Have you gone to planned parenthood yet? You do realize that at this point you might be to late to have an abortion. Most abortions are performed before the 8th week from LMP, as far as I've been able to find, no reputable doctor will perform an abortion after the first trimester, that means you have, at the latest, until your 12 week from LMP if abortion is what you choose. This information is based on what I've been able to find on the internet, so I'm not 100% certain of it's accuracy.
Sweetie, go to planned parenthood, talk to them and find out what options you have, do it first thing tomorrow morning. If you wait much longer then the decision is no longer in your hands. Planned Parenthood will discuss your options with you, they will help you make the choice that is best for you, please go see them asap. Also, call the police and report you dad for assault, he has no right to lay a hand on you or your sister, or anyone.
Please, do this, you don't deserve to be treated like this and to have to suffer through all of this with no help.
Take care. I'm so glad that you let us know how you're doing. I know that we are all very worried about you.
Christtiee, honey, did you call the police when your father hit you? He has no right to knock you around, none whatsoever, you have to tell someone about this, like the police, or CPS, anyone, this is not a good situation for you to be in.
Have you gone to planned parenthood yet? You do realize that at this point you might be to late to have an abortion. Most abortions are performed before the 8th week from LMP, as far as I've been able to find, no reputable doctor will perform an abortion after the first trimester, that means you have, at the latest, until your 12 week from LMP if abortion is what you choose. This information is based on what I've been able to find on the internet, so I'm not 100% certain of it's accuracy.
Sweetie, go to planned parenthood, talk to them and find out what options you have, do it first thing tomorrow morning. If you wait much longer then the decision is no longer in your hands. Planned Parenthood will discuss your options with you, they will help you make the choice that is best for you, please go see them asap. Also, call the police and report you dad for assault, he has no right to lay a hand on you or your sister, or anyone.
Please, do this, you don't deserve to be treated like this and to have to suffer through all of this with no help.
Take care. I'm so glad that you let us know how you're doing. I know that we are all very worried about you.
its my fault not his, if i hadnt gotten pregnant i wouldnt even been in that fight. im just really careless and stupid.
im planning on going to plan parenthood saturday because thats the only day my sister can take me. im going to ask about abortion but i really dont know if thats what i want.
Did I hear you right? Your father hitting you is your fault, and it's your fault because you were raped and got pregnant? Please tell me that I just read that wrong!
This is not your fault, repeat, NOT YOUR FAULT!
Even if this was your fault your father has not right to hit you EVER!
Honey, you are so used to being physically and mentally abused that your abuser actually has you believing that it's your fault, well listen to me, and listen carefully, it's not your fault. Do you want to know who's at fault? 1. The guy who raped you. 2. You father for being an abusing son of a b*tch. Those are the people at fault, not you. Read it, let it sink in and believe it, it's true.
It is never okay for someone to lay a hand on you, not ever, please tell the police, tell CPS, get out of this house before your father goes to far and ends up doing some permanent damage to you. Please honey, do it, you deserve better than what you are getting.
I know I'm being a bit harsh, but I'm so angry that you actually think you deserve this. I'm not angry at you, I'm angry at the people who made you believe that you deserve nothing good, only the bad. I wish that I could be there for you in person, unfortunately I can't, you have to deal with this, and it's allot for a young girl to deal with, but you can do it, you really can.
Keep us updated honey, we care about you. Until then, keep your chin up, stay safe and know that we are here if you need to talk.
I'm sending you a hug, a big hug, you deserve that, nothing less.
I hate to say it, but getting an abortion would NOT fix your problems. It appears that no matter what you do your father will never change. This is very very sad! I'm so sorry that you are stuck with such a role model. Not all fathers are like that and it's terrible sad that you had to get stuck with one that is. You CAN get help! There are tons of places that would willing to help. Churches especially would be very willing to help you and your sister. Please get help, please! You and your baby will be thankful that you did.
I'm very glad that you have somewhere to go for a while. Even if it's just to get you out of the house for a little bit.
Sweetie! Find yourself someone right away to help support you through this situation! Find a caring, loving pastor or friend that can help you through the maze of police, etc... adoption would be wonderful for a family that is aching to love this child. Raising a child at 15 is mindboggling to say the least. However, if you so decide to do so, create a strong network of support around you from friends, family and caring church leaders! Is there are Christian pregnancy support center in your area? If so, contact them first and see if they have counselors available to support you through this craziness! Date Rape is bad! I too have been slipped drugs in a seemingly innocent drink....still to this day do not have a clue to what happened....my prayers are with you! Blessings.
Christtiee,
NONE of this is your fault. You cannot continue to blame yourself. It's not your fault that you were raped, and it's not your fault that your dad hit you.
And whatever you decide, nobody has the right to judge you for it. This decision is yours. This life is yours. Nobody can tell you how to live it.
For your own safety, and potentially for that of the child, you need to find a way to be safe from your father. Report him and get protection. Move out permanently. Do what you have to to be safe.
You are important, remember to take care of yourself.
Planned Parenthood is not the best place to go and abortion, seemingly easier at times, can have horrible emotional affects, it is not the best answer. And no, it is NOT your fault that your father has hit you, that this has happened, these men are grossly SICK! This is your decision and your decision only! You are a precious child of God no matter how the world tries to tell you otherwise! Take care of yourself and your child first and foremost!
Planned Parenthood is not the best place to go and abortion, seemingly easier at times, can have horrible emotional affects, it is not the best answer. And no, it is NOT your fault that your father has hit you, that this has happened, these men are grossly SICK! This is your decision and your decision only! You are a precious child of God no matter how the world tries to tell you otherwise! Take care of yourself and your child first and foremost!
i am praying for you if that is okay,
Blessings to you!
Spanishspirit, I am not telling her to go there for the abortion, I am asking her to go there so she can see that there are many choices to make and what the after affects and "before" affects can be. They do a wonderful job explaining what options are out there, they also do a wonderful job counceling you through the hardest decisions of your life. I still want you to go there Christee.....I know for a fact they can help you get on, what ever decision YOU make, they will help you wiht it.
You need support honey, we are here to be there for you, but you need to have someone you can run to and talk to....so please, Saturday, go there. Hugs!
Planned Parenthood is not the best place to go and abortion, seemingly easier at times, can have horrible emotional affects, it is not the best answer. And no, it is NOT your fault that your father has hit you, that this has happened, these men are grossly SICK! This is your decision and your decision only! You are a precious child of God no matter how the world tries to tell you otherwise! Take care of yourself and your child first and foremost!
i am praying for you if that is okay,
Blessings to you!
Planned parenthood is the only option she has at this point. And going there doesn't necessarily mean she's getting an abortion, they can help her explore other options as well. If abortion is what she chooses then that is her right, and she should never feel guilty if that's the path she chooses.
Abortion can have emotional effects, as well as adoption and raising the child herself, none of the options is easy, all of them will leave lasting emotional scars.
Christtiie, whatever you decide is up to you and only you. Please, never feel guilty of the choice you make, you need to think of yourself right now, and what is best for you and only you. If you decide to carry the child to term then you do owe it to the child to take care of yourself, that would include getting out of your father's house, which you should do anyway, regardless of whether or not you have the child.
You are still a child, but you have to make some very adult choices right now, no one else can make them for you, it's all up to you.
Good Luck sweetie, we're all here for you when you need us.
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