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im pregnant! i took the test this morning and it came out positive. i havent told anyone yet because i dont know who to tell. im so scared, i have no idea what to do. i cant even imagine on whats going to happen. what can i do. i dont even know how to tell someone like what would i say?
if it where me i would not care what any dumb seez and keep the baby life is such a
beautiful thing i would not wast it and i mean the kid's life. you know cat's have baby's at 2. get help but dont blam your self or kill the kid.
all so I DONT SEE HOW ANY ONE CAN LOOK DOWN ON YOU IF WHERE raped the father on the outher hand yea that's kind of the way cave men used to get lucky they used to club a chick drag them in to the cave and then never pay child support but they did make one brakethrouth the development of Human evolution and if they did'nt and say club kid there would still be dinosaurs at mcdonalds in the drive through. my point is just dont kill the kid. ever thing happions for a reason.
And I say that it's still her choice and hers alone. Whether she decides to keep the child, abort the child or place the child for adoption, it's her body and she has to make the decision that's best for her.
No one has the right to tell someone else what to do, especially in a situation like this. The OP is 16, she was raped and now she is carrying the product of that rape. Life is precious, the child she is carrying is not at fault, but she still has to think of herself first in this situation.
Unless you have been through a similar situation, you don't have the right to judge, I doubt many of us would be able to handle what she's going through.
To sum up: 15 year old Christiee Lee was raped in March by one or more men, discovered she was pregnant a couple of weeks later, broke up with her boyfriend with whom she'd never had sex and without telling him her predicament, finally told her sister after her batterer father sent her to the hospital, and hasn't been back here since about April 27th. If she's still pregnant, she is now about 8 weeks along. I hope she's okay and that she eventually made it to Planned Parenthood.
I didn't understand why is was so difficult for Christiee to admit that she was raped. When she started another thread, she still couldn't say it. She said she didn't know who the father was, and once again people expressed anger towards her, assuming bad things about her and contributing to her undeserved shaming. Does Christiee think the rape was her fault? When her father threw her down stairs for not doing the dishes, she said it was her fault. What a terrible person he is to teach a child that she deserves to be abused in such vicious ways.
Christiee, if you are around, tell us how you are doing. You did not deserve to be hit. You did not deserve to be raped. (And you were raped. Period. It wasn't "date rape," which always sounds less serious, because there was no date.) Nothing you did entitles anyone to do these things to you ever, no matter what some people say. And I hope your father finds his way to jail. If he assaulted his boss or a stranger on the street, he would go to jail. There's no reason it should be okay for him to assualt his own daughters.
Startover22, Thanks for the greenie!
You sure did your best to give her good advice.
I was sad that C didn't seem to take it. So many people seem to assume that going to Planned Parenthood is the same as deciding to have an abortion, and it's not, although I think that would have been a decent choice in this case. PP will help people decide what they need to do... They won't force a particular choice on someone.
Please do not get an abortion! I had given it a thought once and did some research. It is absolutely mortifying to find out how and what they do. I started crying while reading it and now I have a beautiful baby girl that is my world. Baby's have a heart beat and can feel in the first few weeks, please keep that in mind.
Watch "JUNO"! It might just give you some courage to give the baby to a family that can't have children. It was a very good movie and I think every scared young pregnant girl should watch it.
Also, there are MANY MANY help site on the web. Just type in pregnancy help or something like that and tons of things pop up. It did and in a few second found this
It is a very sad situation. I am not in any way trying to make her feel guilty for anything. I really hope that she doesn't think that is what I was saying. I don't want her going through life wondering the "what if" like my friends who had abortions in high school. It is hard not knowing what to do or who to turn to. You know that being pregnant can be a challenging time alone without having to deal with what she is dealing with. My desire for her is that she talks to someone who can truly be of help and encouragement during this time in her life. I don't think she would feel guilty if she had the abortion, but I fear that she would wonder about what would it have been like if she chose to have the baby. Maybe she wouldn't wonder, I don't know. I really hope Christie is ok and hopefully she has talked to her sister or someone by now.
I agree with you 100%! I also have friends, ex friends to be exact, that all had abortions in high school and all but one is dealing with counseling and now almost 10 years later are having hard times with it. The one that isn't dealing with it sadly ended her life 2 years later. I also had a baby when I had planned on NEVER having children. The first thing I looked into was abortion and to this day it makes me sick to my stomach to know that I even thought about it.
I feel so sorry for the poor girl. To be 15 and going through this. I didn't even know what sex was at 15. She is brave for even coming here for help. I think most eveyone is doing a pretty good job at advice tho.
Okay, maybe I should have said this from the beginning, I didn't because I didn't think the OP needed to hear it, I still don't, but maybe some of the rest of you do.
I was raped when I was 18, thankfully I did not become pregnant from this, I did however get an STD. I was lucky, the STD required 6 months of antibiotics and then I was free and clear, I did not receive a lasting reminder of my ordeal. The OP was raped and now is carrying the rapists child. Yes, it is a child, and the child is innocent, the OP was also innocent, and she's 16 years old with absolutely no parental help. She is in the worst position that anyone could ever dream to be in, alone, raped, and pregnant. Saying that she should not have an abortion is really an easy judgement to make, I don't think any one of us would be able to walk in her shoes right now, I know I wouldn't.
I just hope that she finally gets some help with her situation. I hope that she comes back and lets us know how she's doing. I hope that she's okay.
aright so about 2 weeks ago almost i came home from school and my dad was waiting for me and my sister. he was really pissed and he had found my prenatlevitamins he started screaming at us to find out who was pregnant and i told him i was and he punched me and knocked my tooth out and gave me a minor concussion and he broke my sisters nose. so we stayed at my friends house for a couple nights which is why i havent be able to go on a computer. i havent talked to him since, i went to the house once to get clothes but he wasnt there. my friends mom said me and my sister could stay there for as long as we want so i have a place for now. the baby is fine but i still havent decided what to do, i want to get an abortion so bad because it would just get rid of my problems and then i wouldnt have to tell anyone about how i got pregnant but im so scared to get an abortion and i dont want to be a murderer. i know im running out of time but i really dont know what to do, i try not to think about it but thats all i can think about.
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