Ok, wow i'm nervous. ok i have noticed that im running late on my period, i had my period last time on May 6.. the date now is June 18. my period are always random and i never really keep track and yes i am sexually activity and the last time i had an intercourse was in end of april. im only 17 about to turn 18, i weigh 135 lbs. when knowing that im about to start my period my boobs hurt and i break out bad. the things is thats been happening for the past two weeks. latel i have noticed that i feel dizz and im always hungry and i always crying about something i havn't got sick or anything but im still a teenage aanad im just scared. i know i should go get a preg. test or see my doctor the thing is i dont want to do anything and everything is fine because i have preg. scares all the time. i don't know what to do, i cant have a baby and live my senior year and i don't want to have an abortation, and all things my parents still think im a virgin. So i know i gave you guys like a story but can anybody give me help i've looked on the inertent for the syptoms and things and they all say the smae i just need so comments. thanks.....
scared teenager.

superscullgirl

nikosmom

Re-read what Chuck said:
He said if you are not ready. It's great that you love kids. It's great that you want to be a mommy someday. But if you are 17 yrs old, no one is gonna come here and nonchalantly advise you to continue have sex and "don't worry about it if you get pregnant".

Many of the people that have responded to your thread are parents. Some were young parents; some waited. The fact remains: being a parent is the most difficult job in the world. You haven't even finished high school so how in the world do you think you could take care of a child??

You may not have come here for these responses but we all see the things that you do not because we've been there. Babies are cute but they don't stay babies forever and they are very demanding. No amount of babysitting prepares you for being a parent. So what we're all saying is why continually open yourself up to possibly ruining the rest of your life? Why not focus on school and being young?

When you ask certain questions, you're not going to only get a yes/no response; often the people that respond are going to step back and look at the situation as a whole and then offer advice based on the total picture. Here we see a scared 17 yr old that's afraid to talk to her parents about being sexually active, which then means she's not taking proper precautions against pregnancy, also means she's not really informed on risky sexual behavior, possibly could not be getting the proper prenatal care (if pregnant), and is definitely not in a mental or financial state to raise a child. Just telling you what we see and why you got these responses.

chicka2010

so im pergnant......

nikosmom

Talk to your parents if you haven't already.

Now schedule an appt with an ob/gyn.

chicka2010

i told my parents, they werent thrilled thats for sure. but i also made a appoiment, i think everything is going to be ok.

Justwantfair

Step One to be a mother - Learn how to spell pregnant.

Complete as much education as possible, your children will be learning from you.

If you want the ability to support a child then you need to be able to communicate in the written language, as you will be unhireable in most positions if you can not.

Considering the fact that being pregnant at 17 limits your ability to continue on for a college education, learn as much as you can on your own. There aren't many positions available for people without a college education, so you have to improve your marketability.

DoulaLC

I think it was a honest spelling mistake...."pregnant" was spelled correctly in her original post.


I agree wholeheartedly.....your education will be more of a challenge but it certainly can be done. Your senior year has just finished or is next year your senior year? If it is next year, check with your school district as some offer programs for teen mothers to make sure they finish school, or it may not be an issue in your particular school. If you just graduated, you may decide to take a year off before going to college, if you are planning to go, or you may decide to start right in. You can also look into taking courses online....many colleges and universities offer full degree programs online.

Start on a prenatal vitamin, make healthy food and drink choices, stay away from cigarette smoke as much as possible, always use your seat belt, keep all of your doctor appointments, read about pregnancy,childbirth, and taking care of a newborn....there are many excellent books that can be helpful, make any lifestyle changes that you know would be wise for you and your baby.

Surround yourself with friends who will be helpful and supportive....but be aware that some may not stick around after awhile. Hopefully your boyfriend is in the picture and will remain so. Lean on your parents for their help and guidance.....after the initial shock, hopefully they will come around and be your greatest source of support.

Beenthere105

I hope everything goes well for you I was in the same situation as you and i opted for something else.... My situation was a little complicated and i knew what the long term results would end up being. You can definetly do it though. Il keep you in my prayers. Im 28 now with 1 beautiful 3 year old and i honestly can say i dont know how young mothers do it! My hats off to all TIME, ATTENTION, MONEY,LOVE! Any good mother knows its 24 hours a day for the rest of YOUR LIFE. but a true blessing i couldnt see a more prestigous job motherhood and being a wife. ( Still do work though)