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    meincharleston Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 28, 2008, 09:49 PM
    Husband and Father with intimacy issues
    My wife and I have been happily married for 4 years. We just had a beautiful little girl in December. My Wife is all the mother I could ever ask for. We both have very proactive feelings about life and make things happen for ourselves and our daughter. We both alternate staying home to babysit our daughter. My wife works 6 days every 2 weeks. About 5 weeks after we had our daughter, my wife was diagnosed with postpartum depression. She is still suffering from postpartum depression and is taking medication (zoloft). According to her, almost all of her symptoms are gone. Still, she doesn't know what is keeping her from feeling sexual.
    We've had a wonderful sex life up until the pregnancy. It was so good in fact that we could decide when she would climax and how often during sex. She would have multiple orgasms and I would also know where to put it to cause them. It's been almost 6 months since we had our daughter and she doesn't even think about sex. She doesn't even masturbate. She never initiates sex and when I do she doesn't want it. When we have sex she pushes me away. Asks me when I'm done. Now I know you'll say, do you help around the house. Yes, everyday I make dinner and I also do most of the cleaning. It's like the twilight zone. Who has taken my wife and replaced her with a person who hates sex.
    I'm more attracted to my wife than I have ever been. It is driving me crazy and I believe it is creating a void between us. We can't share any deep mutual intimacy. We don't really kiss romantically. I've tried romance and dinners. Valentines, Birthdays, and Anniversary have all been a bust for romance. The mood is always set by me. What do I do?
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    May 28, 2008, 09:59 PM
    Don't know about Zoloft, but I've had 2 girlfriends who were depressed, they started taking Paxil, and lost interest in sex. When they stopped the Paxil, they became depressed screaming b it ches. So there may not be an answer.
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    May 29, 2008, 04:58 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by meincharleston
    My wife and I have been happily married for 4 years. We just had a beautiful little girl in December. My Wife is all the mother I could ever ask for. We both have very proactive feelings about life and make things happen for ourselves and our daughter. We both alternate staying home to babysit our daughter. My wife works 6 days every 2 weeks. About 5 weeks after we had our daughter, my wife was diagnosed with postpartum depression. She is still suffering from postpartum depression and is taking medication (zoloft). According to her, almost all of her symptoms are gone. Still, she doesn't know what is keeping her from feeling sexual.
    We've had a wonderful sex life up until the pregnancy. It was so good in fact that we could decide when she would climax and how often during sex. She would have multiple orgasms and I would also know where to put it to cause them. It's been almost 6 months since we had our daughter and she doesn't even think about sex. She doesn't even masturbate. She never initiates sex and when I do she doesn't want it. When we have sex she pushes me away. Asks me when I'm done. Now I know you'll say, do you help around the house. Yes, everyday I make dinner and I also do most of the cleaning. It's like the twilight zone. Who has taken my wife and replaced her with a person who hates sex.
    I'm more attracted to my wife than I have ever been. It is driving me crazy and I believe it is creating a void between us. We can't share any deep mutual intimacy. We don't really kiss romantically. I've tried romance and dinners. Valentines, Birthdays, and Anniversary have all been a bust for romance. The mood is always set by me. What do I do?
    It can take time to get back into the mood after having a baby just in general for some, so that can be part of it, but it is not an uncommon reaction with Zoloft. Go with her to a doctor's appointment and discuss alternative meds. Sometimes it can be trial and error to finding out which one will benefit her ppd while not resulting in the lack of sexual interest. She may or may not even be able to slowly wean off the meds altogether.

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