| Go get a test, it. Go to planned parenthood if thats the only place you can go, or go to your normal doctor. It doesn't matter. As long as you get the answer you need. Don't let people tell you where you need to go or where to not go. As long as you get that blood test and the answer, then thats all you need. If you get a positive, call an OBGYN and get your appointment set up.
I'm 19 and 15 weeks preggo. It was soooooo hard for my fiance and I to tell our parents. We live three hours away from our mom's. We were going to do a surprise visit Mother's Day weekend, but I found out that Monday before that weekend, that I was pregnant. So I made them their mother's day gifts which were homemade scrap books of my fiance Logan and I, and on the last page, I got small blank halmark cards and wrote exactly this "Logan and I have something important to say to you. We are sorry if we have disappointed you, and may upset you. this is something that we are both very excited for, scared, and happy about and hope you will share the happiness with us. We feel we need your love and support now more than ever. We knew what we were risking, and are both so thrilled with what has been given to us. WE are pregnant. We know the sterotypes against us and feel we are better than that. We hope you will also be filled with joy and happiness about bringing this little person into the world. We love you."
It takes three hours to get to where they live and it was the longest three hours of my life. I kept shaking and twirling my thumbs and on the verge of tears. As soon as we got to Logan's house, we handed his mom her mothers day gift. She kept looking through it, kept saying how beautiful it is, and how happy she was to see us. I just started crying. I hugged Logan and hid my face. As soon as she got to the last page, she opened up the card, and stated reading out loud. I started sobbing. As soon as she got to the "we need your love and support now more than ever" she put the card down and looked at us and asked "Are we having a baby?" I looked away and cried even harder. Then she came to us and hugged and kissed us, rubbed my belly and said "hello in there!" Then she called everyone she knew and said "I'm going to be a grandma!"
Then the three of us drove to my moms house then Logan and I got out of the car. I knocked on my moms door, as soon as she hugged me, I started crying so hard. She asked me what was wrong and I could not say a word. I was shaking so hard as I handed her the book I made. She put it off to the side and kept asking what was wrong and kept hugging me. I kept pointing to the book. Then she just said "becca tell me what is wrong" so I grabbed the book, took the card out. It was so hard for me to just say "Read it, just read it first." She read the card quietly to herself. When she was done, smiled, cried and said "aww!" Then she said "I'm only 46! This baby is not going to call me grandma!" Then she started saying she can never be disappointed in me no matter what.
I seriously thought we would not be leaving alive. I thought they were going to yell and scream and never talk to us again. But I was so far from the truth it wasn't even funny.
Then I had to tell my dad. That was hard. He is one of those strong catholics, very judgmental, sterotypes A LOT, and msot of all isn't very fond of Logan. So I wrote him a card, and he read it, hugged me, and said "so when are you going to get married?" Then for awhile he would call the baby "the situation" I had to get after him about that and now since I am further along I think it hit him more and now he is a lot better about it. He has even volunteered to paint the baby's room and keeps picking out names.
Also be ready to answer questions. There will be alot.
Its going to be so hard to tell your parents. There will be crying, hugging, possibly yelling, and that stupid question "how did this happen?" (try to hold back from any smarta*s remarks), but they are your parents and will get over it. Who knows they may surprise you. Besides, sooner or later your mom will take you out to get maternity clothes and baby stuff. Once you tell them, you will feel so much better. Trust me. If you feel you cannot say it to their faces (like me) then write a letter. And if you can, get the father of the baby to sit down and tell both of your parents together and say "WE are pregnant." Remember whatever doesn't kill ya makes you stronger! |