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When in labor, during delivery, you DON'T scream. While some women do, it actually makes the delivery harder. Best thing is to hold your chin to your chest, hold your breath and push. When you scream it actually sucks the baby back up by centimeters and can make delivery much harder and longer.
When women are allowed to give birth without direction, many will initally hold their breath, bare down, and grunt or moan baby out......very similar to having a difficult bowel movement. Holding the breath too long, known as valsalva pushing, can put some mothers and babies at risk due to decreased oxygen...we tell fathers and partners to watch for purple pushing (where mothers exert so much energy in their faces from straining they will turn color) because this type of pushing does not provide oxygen well to mother, baby, and uterus....and many women find they actually break little blood vessels in their eyes and face.
During labor as well, many women will moan or groan during a contraction. It is very individual...some turn inward and are quite quiet, others find making noise to be helpful. Trusting in the body to do what it was designed to do, moving into a more instinctual process and less thinking mode, most women will innately give birth in a way that works best for them.
I didn't scream the nurse screamed (and screamed and screamed and screamed) at me
when my ex got there an hour later she was still screaming at me and he yelled at her for screaming at me then the dr came in and screamed at him for screaming at her. Then found out they were husband and wife.
Why was she screaming at me?
Because I was saying eowoh and off a breath instead of the proper breathing technique
Just my personal experience and sure it is totally not common experience of any body else
>>>>>Why was she screaming at me?
>>>>>Because I was saying eowoh and off a breath instead of the proper breathing technique
Sorry to hear you were screamed at in labor....very sad indeed. I once was at a birth were a doctor actually told the mother to "shut up" because she thought the mother was making too much noise!
There is a difference between helpful noise and out of control noise. I can remember when nurses would get after mothers if they made noise because they said they were letting go of all of their breath and wouldn't be able to sustain a push that way. For some women, making noise is actually very beneficial. Hold back in one area, you often are holding back throughout your body. Not what you want in birth.
Very sad indeed. Yet, we have women, like I had today, that scream and scream, loud enough for the entire floor to hear when we do a SVE (Sterile Vaginal Exam) to find out how far they have dilated. Then the clamp their legs together, bite us (yes, I have bite marks on my left forearm), and refuse to listen to the nurses and the doctors who are only trying to help.
I had a section today because the woman refused to breathe properly, she was retaining CO2 and the baby's heart rate decel'd, and Mom refused pain meds.
Making noise, a certain amount, can be beneficial, but it is only for the experienced birth mother as the noise process can actually "suck" the baby back up in the vaginal canal if not controlled properly.
I know when female drs would check to see how much I had dilated that hurt like they were trying to hurt to take something out on you. I dreaded when a female nurse came near me when I knew that was next on the agenda.
I always thought labor and deliver would be like what is on tv and boy was I wrong. To me tv made it out to be worse then it really is, but I did have an easy delivery. When I had contractions I got really quiet and concentrated on my breathing, no yelling, no screaming. To me the screaming would only make it worse. Once the epidural came I was in heaven....nothing after that hurt at all. I love epidurals!
I think I screamed loud enough for the whole floor to hear me. My husband said I wasn't that bad. My memory, for whatever reason, is skewed. I remember lots of nurses coming in and I got freaked out because I thought something was wrong. My husband says that there was never more than three people in the room. So who knows!!
My daughter got stuck in the birth canal and we had to do an emergency c-section. When I got to the operating room, I had an anxiety attack and they had to put me out! I could not calm myself down. I had been up for 36 hours, fatigue had set in, I was terrified that something was wrong with the baby, etc, etc....
It all worked out...
I actually apologized to all the nurses and doctors when I woke up because I was so embarrassed!
I think that grunting is beneficial, like grunting when you are constipated! I told the nurses and my husband that if they counted I would kill them. I just thought I would find it irritating. If a laboring woman can remain somewhat in control, and not let fear take over, her body will tell her when to push. At least, that's been my experience. I don't know with an epidural though, maybe the pushing sensations are not as strong. But I believe that the "fear factor" can dictate how the labor and delivery will go in many cases. Fear will make the pain worse. It is a vicious cycle, that if a woman can remain at least partially on top of, her body will work more efficiently. Weird question BTW. I don't remember what noises I made. I was too busy to listen to myself, know what I mean? lol
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